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Patricia "DyAnn" Ingebretson

January 31, 1943 - September 15, 2020

Memorial Service - Friday

September 25, 2020
- 2:00 PM with a gathering one hour prior

Boulger Funeral Home


Boulger Funeral Home

Patricia "DyAnn" Ingebretson

January 31, 1943 - September 15, 2020


DyAnn Ingebretson passed away peacefully Tuesday, September 15, 2020 at Sanford Hospice House, Fargo, ND with her husband at her side.

She was born Patricia Diane Schimke on January 31, 1943, the fourth of 4 daughters in the family of Edwin G. and Linda (Seibel) Schimke of Harvey ND. She grew up surrounded by a whole host of aunts, uncles and cousins in the small, close knit community. She attended Harvey Public Schools and during her teenage years was baptized upon Confession of Faith into the Mennonite Brethren Church.

At the age of 17, she left home to complete a course in cosmetology in Bismarck and spent the next 17 years as a hairdresser in the Harvey area. In 1961 she married the late Norman (Dutch) Stafford and their union produced 2 children. After the marriage ended, she worked hard as a single mother of 2 rambunctious knot-headed small boys to ensure they were fed and clothed and kept safe from harm. The memories of her children always harken to those times where she sacrificed and suffered without complaint to give them a fighting chance.

She met the love of her life, Paul L. Ingebretson and they were married on November 29th, 1974. The care he gave her and the joy they shared- along with the patience he generally exhibited toward her knuckle head children was a marvel to behold. And after her children grew up and moved away, their lives took on an almost fairy tale quality. They traveled extensively, lived well and more importantly, loved well.

DyAnn took great satisfaction in the various careers she created for herself. All the years of hairdressing, managing a sporting goods store, and owning and operating a children’s clothing store were evidence as to how smart and adaptive she was. As a retirement hobby, she created the most beautiful stained glass art imaginable. Her nuclear trained son with all the fancy math still cannot figure out how she did it.

Like her own mother, she sometimes disparaged herself for not having higher degrees, but her intelligence and common sense exceeded advanced education in many ways. She took great delight in many things. Her devoted and adoring husband. Sometimes her children.

Always her grandchildren and great grandchildren. She cherished her relationships with her sisters, cousins, nieces and nephews and friends. Her days were full and her heart was equally full. She was magnificent and a wonder to behold. Sadly, her magnificence shone never so brightly than when she was diagnosed with cancer. Her thoughts were always about the rest of the family. Her suffering was done mostly in private. She didn’t complain, and she had an innate kindness and an empathy that made her think always of others first.

Her relationship with Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ dictated every aspect of her life and was her great comfort to the end. She was preceded in death by her parents, son Kirk James Stafford, and sister Dorothy (Wes) Faul. She is survived by those who are left to mourn; her husband Paul, Sisters Jeanette (Marvin) Martens, Fairview, OK, Carol (Jerry) Martens, Broken Arrow, OK, Step-Brother Gary (Jane) Nutz, Minot ND, son Kevin (Shelly) Stafford, Anamoose, ND.

Grandchildren; Alyssa Stafford, Bismarck, ND, Brandon Stafford, Pensacola, FL, Felicia (Eric) Lutz, Vero Beach, FL, and Zachary Stafford, Lithia, FL. Great Grand Sons, Joel, Joseph, Jacob and Myles. The Family would like to thank the Staff at Hospice House for the wonderful care and they many acts of kindness shown DyAnn in her last days.

In lieu of cards or flowers, the family wishes you make a donation to your church, charity of choice or any organization that researches or treats cancer.

Memorial Services will be held at 2 PM Friday, September 25, 2020 at Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center in Fargo. A gathering will be held one hour prior to the service. (Services will be live streamed on the funeral home website beginning at 1:45 PM). Burial will take place at a later date at the North Dakota Veterans Cemetery in Mandan, ND.


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9 responses to “Patricia “DyAnn” Ingebretson”

  1. Georgia Zimmerman says:

    Dear Paul,
    There are no words to tell you how devastated we are at the loss of your DyAnn. My heart is broken for you during this time of unbelievable sorrow. My prayers are with you and your family and know that I will continue to have her always in my prayers. DyAnn was such an exceptional person to us and to everyone who had the wonderful opportunity to know her. We always enjoyed being with you and DyAnn, and will never forget the wonderful time we had with both of you when we brought your mother to visit you in Bismarck.
    Unfortunately, we will be unable to attend her memorial service. Due to Bill’s stroke I’m afraid that we are very limited to what we can do, and traveling is no longer an option. I am so sorry. I cannot tell you how much this hurts me. But I have wonderful memories and will always have her in my heart and prayers. God bless you for giving her so much love, attention and affection. Remember, in heaven, she will still be watching over you, guiding you safely until you will once again be united with her. We will send you a donation for you to make in her name to the cancer research of your choice. Love, Bill and Georgia

  2. Mary jo says:

    Paul and kevin
    What wonderful memories I have of your wife and mother. She was a neighbor to us and a friend. She had 2 wonderful sons. She was a woman who always had fun. Even though her and Dutch divorced I always considered my sister in law. I will miss her. Know your in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. Larry and Kathleen Martens says:

    We have prayed much for Diane and for the family, particularly in recent weeks. And, we continue those prayers now for you as a family as you grieve her death, but also as you give thanks that her suffering is now over, and as you rejoice that she is now in the presence of her Lord and Savior.

  4. Marlo & Sharon Seibel says:

    We will continue to pray for Paul, Kevin and family.

    Marlo & Sharon

  5. Carolyn Markle says:

    Paul and family,
    I am so very sorry of DyAnns passing. She was a very nice and friendly lady, she will be missed.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    A memorial to Hospice will be sent in her memory.

  6. Rose and Jeff Gitter says:

    We were so sad to hear about DyAnn. We have such wonderful memories of when you were our neighbors. The shared visits and how we laughed. We will see you Friday. Praying 🙏 for comfort and peace.

  7. robert cunningham says:

    Paul, so sorry to hear of your loss. May God shine upon you to help in your loss.

  8. Randy and Melissa Faul says:

    Our condolences go out to you Paul and Kevin. Our family lost a special woman and she will be missed. Aunt DyAnn was like my second mother while growing up when we visited Harvey. I was one of those rambunctious nephews that hung around with my cousins and made many fond memories. It is of great comfort to know that she is with Jesus in paradise. Hugs to you both and the rest of the family.

  9. Zach Stafford says:

    Dear Grandpa,
    Thank you for being a wonderful grandfather and husband to my grandma DyAnn. Even though we were always far apart distance wise, I couldn’t have ever asked for better grandparents. You and grandma were both always so elegant and kind whenever I saw you. Myself and my siblings wished we could’ve grown nearer to you, and me personally so we could play music together, so you could teach me guitar, so grandma could teach me any number of the things she excelled at.
    Even though we never really had much time together, the memories I have of my grandma will forever be of her elegance, her kindness, her skill at creating beautiful things (her stained glass, her unbelievable angel food cake), and of the powerful love she had for all of us who were lucky enough to be called her family.
    She was a rare and wonderful person. I hope I can portray to my own son even a fraction of the love she gave to each and every one of us. I love you both.

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