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Barbara J. Alinder

July 13, 2020

Memorial Service - Thursday

July 16, 2020
- 2:00 PM

Boulger Funeral Home & Celebration of Life Center, Fargo

Visitation - Thursday

July 16, 2020
1:00 PM - 2:00 PM

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center, Fargo


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Barbara J. Alinder

July 13, 2020


Barbara Jane Alinder,73, Fargo, ND passed away on Monday July 13, 2020 at Bethany on University.

Barb was born on March 9, 1947 at Union Hospital in Mayville, ND to Gilbert and Millie (Olson) Gilbertson. She was baptized and confirmed at Mayville Lutheran Church. She graduated in 1965 from Mayville High School. She worked at Union Hospital in Mayville.

In 1973, Barbara moved to Fargo, ND and started work at Dakota Clinic/Essentia Health until her retirement in August 2011, after 38 years.

Barb married David E. Alinder, her best friend the love of her life on September 4, 1993 at Olivet Lutheran Church.

Barbara is survived by her husband David, her sister, Joan Strand (Bob), Spring Hill, FL, and niece Allison (Greg) Snyder, stepdaughter, Julie Kuehn, Brandon, SD, grandsons, Alex (Jen) and Todd, great-granddaughter, JoJo; stepdaughter, Kristi Tchida (Mike), Sisseton, SD and granddaughter, Mackenzie and grandson Kayden.

Barbara was preceded in death by her parents, sister Fern Gilbertson, grandson, Eric Suurmeyer, and nephew Andy Strand.

Memorial Service: 2:00 P.M. Thursday, July 16, 2020 at Boulger Funeral Home & Celebration of Life Center, Fargo with visitation starting at 1:00 P.M.

It will also be live streamed starting below on Thursday, July 16, 2020 at 1:45 P.M.:


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24 responses to “Barbara J. Alinder”

  1. Ruth Eberle says:

    Barb was excellent at her job!!! When I had an appointment she was the one I looked forward to visit with. My thoughts and prayers are with the family

  2. Alice & Darrold Engel says:

    So sorry for your loss, David. Barb was a wonderful woman and nurse! I (Alice) knew her from the clinic as well as we knew you two from Wednesday night at Olivet. God be with you and may Barb rest in His arms.
    Alice & Darrold Engel

  3. Sharon K Quam says:

    Barb my friend of 50 years, and our lunch dates the past couple years, I will miss you!
    We started out together in Mayville and ended up together in Fargo….
    You have left too soon but know you are with Jesus and at peace….one day we will see each other again, until then know I will miss you girlfriend!

  4. Ileen Durr says:

    David, I was so saddened to hear of Barb”s passing. I am so sorry for your loss. I had not heard that Barb was ill. During this pandemic, the gals from Curves had not been together for our monthly coffee or communicated since February. We called ourselves the WOKs–the Women of Knowledge.

    I enjoyed seeing Barb so much. She had the greatest of smiles. She was always so positive and had such great stories about what was going on in her life; many of her stories had to do with her children and her grandchildren. She was so proud to speak of them. She also spoke of her years of working in the medical field.

    Again, David, Barb will surely be missed.

  5. Julie Hulne says:

    Barb will be greatly missed. A group of us ladies would get together for coffee on the first Friday of the month and talk and laugh. It started when most of us met after working out at Curves Fitness. We still met after Curves closed. Barb was a joy to know and through her stories, a glimpse of her extended family. My sympathies to the entire family. Julie Hulne

  6. David G. George and Marcia Schmaus says:

    David, We are shocked and sad to hear about Barb’s passing. Please accept our condolences. We are so sorry. May God comfort you in this time of sorrow.

  7. Judi Geisinger says:

    I looked forward to our coffee times at Fareway and enjoyed visiting with Barb. We hadn’t been able to do that with the pandemic and was looking forward to seeing her again when the pandemic was over. Sympathies to the family.

  8. Faye Erbes says:

    My sincere sympathy .l worked with Barb for 6 years at the clinic. May God bless you all and hope you find comfort in your memories of Barb.

  9. Bridgette Cossette says:

    I first met Barb when she moved to Fargo in 1973. We lived in the same apartment building. I got to know her through the years when I had appointments at Dakota Clinic. We became really good friends through Red River Singles. We both served on the board and attended all the dances and fun activities. What a dear friend she was. My deepest sympathies to Dave and all her family. May all the memories you all made with Barb get you through this difficult time. Rest In Peace my dear friend. ❤️

  10. Donald & Mary Urness says:

    David We would have attended the memorial service for Barb, but due to the virus we decided it best at our age to stay home. Our prayers are with you at this difficult time. Stay in touch.

  11. Dr. Burton and Patricia Belknap says:

    We were shocked to learn of Barb’s passing yesterday. Barb and I worked together for 31 years and every day it was a joy to be around her. After she retired, it was always a treat for Pat and I to see her and David at a concert or at the movie theatre or to receive her annual Christmas card with news about their family. Barb and I loved seeing and visiting with patients in the clinic, but we both disliked having to use the computer there. How ironic that I have sign her guestbook using a computer! Please forgive me, Barb! May you rest in peace after being such a wonderful friend to so many over the years. Our deepest sympathy goes out to David and the rest of your loving family.

  12. Peggy Granberg says:

    Barb was a very special person. She stopped by our mother’s house several times before Hazel passed away. On many occasions Dad, who owned & worked in a retail grocery store here in town, was surprised by their visits.
    I can’t ex0kain how much she’ll be missed. She was greatly loved by our families.

  13. Susan Brudvik says:

    I am so sorry to read of Barb’s death. We met at the Touchmark gym and enjoyed visiting as we worked out on our machines. Sending my sympathy to her family.

  14. Jane Mathew says:

    David, I was so saddened to hear of Barb’s passing! It seems I saw you guys a month or so ago at the grocery store. I worked in derm at Essentia with Barb for years. She shared many of her “hotdish” recipes with me! The patients loved her and she cared so much for them. May she Rest In Peace!
    Jane (Wolff) Mathew

  15. Jan Tremel says:

    Barb and I worked many years together and I am so sad to hear of her passing. My sympathy and prayers to David and the entire family. I’ll miss you, Barb! Jan Tremel

  16. Dennis & Paulette Domier says:

    We are sending our deepest sympathy to Bob, Joan and family. Barb was a great friend and an awesome person. May beautiful memories carry you on wings of love to a tomorrow of comfort and peace. We will always remember her beautiful smile and mostly her friendship from years past.

    With Sincere Sympathy, Dennis & Paulette Domier

  17. Sheryl and Virgil Dagman says:

    When I spotted that wonderful smile, I realized that was my friend Barb Gilbertson! We hadn’t kept in touch, but I will always remember Barb’s smile! Barb was so kind, thoughtful, friend of everyone and Barb was my friend.
    How I wish we had kept in touch!
    Barb and I knew each other through our mutual friend Shirley Alm. We took a trip together in 1971. We packed as much into that trip as we possibly could! Our jobs changed, our addresses changed and our family situations changed. So that is why we had not kept in touch. But I’m sure if we had met at the clinic, as we once did, we would feel instantly the deep friendship we had been able to make.
    My deepest condolences. Barb rest in peace. God Bless!

  18. Pat Reiser says:

    So sorry to hear about Barb, we worked together in the cline for years. Always had morning coffee. The good old days.
    Pat Reiser

  19. Karen Roehrich Waters says:

    I am so sorry to read of Barbs passing. I met Barb when we both worked at the clinic. We often walked to work together. I was so happy when I heard she found her soulmate and love of her life David. Sadly I think the last time we talked was at least 6 years ago at a chance meeting at Herbergers. It was so fun to hear about your family and her life in retirement! One of many fond memories of Barb is how much she loved to dance! She was a great friend and gone much to soon. My prayers and deepest sympathy to all of her family.

  20. Dr. John Hicks says:

    I was saddened to read of Barbs passing. I will always remember her for her cheerful smile and
    laugh. She was in charge of brightening your day at the south university clinic. She was successful !
    Rest In Peace Barbara.

  21. Wanda Borowicz says:

    Sorry to hear of Barb’s passing. I worked with her for many years at Dakota Clinic in OB/GYN. Her positive attitude and exceptional smile were contagious. She will be missed.

  22. Beth Cline says:

    Thoughts and prayers to you all. I worked with Barb for many years when she was at Dakota Clinic/Essentia. She was a wonderful. Sweet woman.

  23. Tona Critchley says:

    So sorry to read this. I worked with Barb for many years at Dakota Clinic/Innovis/Essentia. She was always friendly and a little feisty – fun lady to be around. RIP, Barb. Peace to her family.

  24. Coleen Krohn says:

    My sympathy to Dave, Julie and Kristi.

    I had no idea that Barb had passed away until I read the obituary. We would call and catch up and would get together in the summer for coffee.

    She was a wonderful, caring person. I will miss her smile and our conversations.

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