Stephen D. Arel

April 23, 1968 ~ June 24, 2022
Stephen’s service will be livestreamed below starting at 10:00 AM Wednesday July 6, 2022.
Stephen Douglas Arel was born in Grand Forks, ND on April 23, 1968. He had many friends and many interests growing up. He and his dad Jean had a shared mechanical and financial aptitude. Steve served as a junior member for the Knights of Columbus. Steve played football and wrestled. He operated the soundboard for the band that he was a member of and started a painting business with friend while still in high school. Steve was a very generous and honest person, following a motorcycle accident, he spent most of the settlement of gifts for his parents. He graduated from Wahpeton High School in 1986. Steve loved holidays; Christmas, Thanksgiving, and the 4th of July were his favorites. He enjoyed entertaining and did so often.
Steve married Carmella Cave in November of 1992. His first son, Jean-Luke Arel was born on April 16th, 1993. His second son, Nathan (Arel) Arel-Keller was born on September 20th, 1995. Steve and Carmella were very active in their children’s lives and were amazing advocates for their futures and well-being. A favorite past time was to go camping as a family.
Steve started a check collection business with his brother-in-law and later he explored the skid-steer market. Steve’s last career was teaching, and it was something he was very passionate about. Steve loved his career. He was a very popular teacher and won Teacher of the Year at Davies High School in 2020.
Steve was responsible for the addition and development of knowledge bowl at Davies and led his team to a state championship. He also was responsible for the development of AP Macro and Microeconomics, as well as AP History in the district. Steve worked tirelessly to be a great teacher and to build relationships with students. He often spent his time writing letters of recommendation for students seeking grant, scholarship or collegiate opportunities and was proud to have procured funding for many to attend college.
Steve and Carmella built a home together north of Horace before ending their marriage but remained friends for nearly a decade.
He loved nature and planted hundreds of trees on his property. Steve just completed building his second home over the last year. He also loved cooking, enchiladas, Christmas meat balls, and chili were specialties of his. He enjoyed having his brother-in-law, Kenny, and his nephew, out to his home in the summers.
Steve died June 24, 2022, at Sanford Hospital in Fargo surrounded by loved ones. He was preceded in death by his father, Jean. Steve is survived by his sons, Jean-Luke Arel and Nathan Arel-Keller (Avery Arel-Keller); mother, Sheila Arel; brother, Dave Arel (Deb Bakko); and numerous cousins, nieces, and nephews.
Thank you Doug, every memory helps sustain us. I
That man had a big impact on me as a student and I know he did on other kids as well. Very good teacher but an even better person.
Thank you Jackson, reading that helps alot!
Hannah, thank you so very much for sharing your meaningful memories!
Yes, Steve was a very kind person. Thank you so much!!
Thank you for your kind memories!
Thank you Jenna.
Thank you Hassan for your kind thoughts.
He always used to claim that he was the reason my girlfriend and I got together, that he had a direct hand in putting two of his favorite students next to each other and pushing us to date. That was the kind of person he was to me; a man willing to get to know me and pushing me out of my comfort zone because he knew there was more potential to me than I saw. I will miss him dearly, and his family has my thoughts and prayers.
Caelan, I so appreciate your kind thought of my son. He was a good man.
One of my very favorite memories is that he always shared dessert skittles with us in Knowledge Bowl as a prize for getting answers correct during practice. Unfortunately, Skittles stopped making that flavor sometime during my high school years. In classic Arel style, he bought up the 5 remaining bags off of Ebay for $20 each. To my surprise, he gave me one along with his favorite G2 pens and a gift card for tacos as a graduation present. I was lucky enough to share that bag of discontinued skittles with him and my classmate one day after we both had graduated and visited him at Davies.
Arel holds a very special place in my heart, and I’m so grateful to have gotten the chance to know him. I’ll never forget all of the things he taught me.
Hattie. Thanks for your kind remembrances. I have Steves last bag of Skittles and will share it with his family at Christmas! He loved you all!!
Said, yes, it was I credibly hard to let him go!!! He loved you all!
I had the pleasure of being one of Mr. Arel’s students. He was an amazing teacher who had a profound impact on my high school and college education as well as my career. My senior year of high school Mr. Arel was my teacher for economics, A.P. Gov, and philosophy. I can say with complete confidence I would not be who I am today had Mr. Arel not been my teacher. He will be remembered.
Katelyn, thank you so much. He was a dedicated teacher for sure!!
Thank you so much. I’m so appreciative of of you sharing your memories.
Thank you Zach!!
Steve Arel and I worked together at Davies High School . We were often the first ones in the building and would often joke about who was first to arrive . He was very passionate about teaching and the welfare of his students . He made teaching fun for his students & it was evident by the number of students that packed his classroom. It’s a very sad day to hear about the loss of one of the BEST teachers and a very special colleague.
Donna, I know Steve appreciated you also! Thank you.
You will be missed ❤️🌮❤️
Josie, thank you so much!!
Max, that means so very much! Thank you.
Tiara, I am grateful for your kind comments!
Thank you Christopher. His love of people shown through.
Casey, thank you for your kind words!!
I was deeply saddened to see the news about Steve. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire family at this time. Keep the good memories close to your hearts and remember all the great things that Steve accomplished over his short life. Thinking of you all…
Lisa, thank you so much!
Levi, thank you so very much!
Sheri, thank you for your kind words.
He had a profound impact on my understanding and appreciation for economics. One of my favorite teachers at Davies during my time there, and such a kind person.
Carter, thank you so much!
Emily, I’m so glad Steve was there for you. Makes a mom feel blessed!
I consider Mr. Arel to be one of the most influential people in my time as a student at Davies, and am confident that I would not be where I am today if it weren’t for him. I owe him a great deal of thanks. You will be greatly missed, thank you again so much for everything you did for me.
Austin, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.
Carol, Steve was very good at his pranks!! Thank you!!
I am so sorry to see of Steve’s passing! I went to school with him in Wahpeton and he was such a nice guy. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time.
Vicki, thank you so much!!
Sheila, Dave and Family,
I’m so sad to hear this news. I cherish the time I spent with Steve growing up and working with him. I’m honored to be the “friend” in the high school painting business 😃. So many great times, he will be missed dearly. Hugs Shiela ❤️
Gerrymandering, Thank you so much for connecting with us. He was a phenomenal teacher, friend and son. Since his dad died we have spent ALOT of time together. I will miss him so much. Take care.
Sheila, Dave and family,
I’m very sad to hear this news. I cherish the time I spent growing up with Steve and working with him. I’m honored to be the “friend” in the high school painting business :). We had so many great times and memories. He will be missed dearly. Hugs Sheila
Gerry, thanks so much for connecting with us. Yes, Steve was a phenomenal teacher, friend and son. I will miss him so much!! He has gone way to young. Take care
I am so sad to hear of this news. I have such fond memories of Steve from when we were just kids in the neighborhood playing, growing up together, and going through school together. He was always so kind & willing to lend a hand when able. He was always so full of energy & laughter. I will always remember him as a happy person, who also loved to be a little mischievous at times, but it was always in fun. My thoughts and prayers to you all.
Paulette Paur-Bingham
Paulette, so nice to hear from you. Yes, Steve was quite a young man and even better as a mature one. He is missed!! Thank you.
So sorry to hear of Steve’s passing. I was a high school classmate (class of ‘86). I remember him as being a really nice guy. Thank you for the detailed obituary, it was nicely written and I didn’t know of all his accomplishments. He sounded like an amazing person and role model for many. I’m sure he will be greatly missed by many. Thoughts and prayers to all of his family during this difficult time.
Sincerely, Brenda (Mohs) Armstrong
Brenda, thank you so much! Thank you for your prayers!!
Goodbyes were especially difficult. .
Austin, I am positive you are right about the tacos and the potato oles!! Thank you for remembering!!
Jimmy, I remember Steve talking about your recent text! He was thrilled to hear from you!! Thanks for connecting with him and with us!!
I’m so sorry to hear about this. Steve was a classmate of mine. He was always nice to me and shared his smile that would lite up a room. He will be dearly missed.
Love & Hugs Sheila
Kay, thank you for your kind words!! Also, thank you for the love and hugs!!!
I worked with Arel at Davies High School. He was such an amazing colleague, mentor and friend. I always enjoyed our morning chats before the chaos of the day began. Prayers to his family and friends.
Justine, thank you for kind words about Steve!!! He was a kind and thoughtful person!!
Mrs. Arel and Dave-I am saddened by Steve’s death. What a blessing to have your memories as well as these heartfelt comments of others lucky enough to have known him as well. Offering you strength, peace, and prayers.
Corrie (Stach) Blythe
Corrie, how great to hear from you. It is a sad time and kind words like your make things more bearable. Thank you!
Jeff, Steve would be so pleased that you remember that trip. I’m sure you had a wonderful time. Thanks
Arel made a big impact on my life as a teacher. He had a way of relaying information to students that made them understand. He also demonstrated that he cared about you. He has altered my life for the better in my educational journey about business and finance. He will be missed by me and many.
Camden, thank you for remembering Steve. He truly did care about each of his students.
Mr. Arel was a light in the halls of Davies. He taught some pretty hard classes but they were the ones that I looked forward to the most. He made a huge impact on my life and it’s clear I wasn’t even close to the only one. My mother pointed out to me one day that every time she asked me “how was school today?” I always found a way to tell her about Mr. Arel. Whether it was something I learned that day or something he said to make us laugh. His time and dedication to his students will always be admired. Thank you Mr. Arel for all you did for us.
Samantha, I so appreciate you taking the time to relay your memories of Steve.
Judies, I remember Steve talking about that. He loved doing fun out of the ordinary things. You students made his time teaching very fulfilling.
Thanks for bring that up.!!
Vic, thank you so much for your kind words. He was very serious about giving his students the best possible education. He is missed.
If I had a dollar for every student who came into my office at NDSU and said, “I had the greatest teacher at South” and then “I had the greatest teacher at Davies,” “so I want to be a teacher just like Mr. Arel,” I could have retired years ago.
My son was one of the South High students stuck in Houston with Steve during a national economics challenge. Rain flooded the Houston airport and they were stuck there for a few extra days. Steve took it all in stride. Both of my kids had Steve and adored him.
I was reminded that Fargo is still just a small town when I was lucky to have Nathan as a student in one class at NDSU.
Linda, thank you for the memories!! They help so much at this time and far into the future. He was one good conscientious man. I miss him so much.
Jill, I am so glad to hear from you. Steve would be also. Thanks
MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU ALL… I WAS SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT STEVE. WE WERE VERY TIGHT FOR MANY YEARS. I HAVE GREAT MEMORIES OF HANGING OUT, WORKING, LISTENING TO MUSIC TOGETHER. HE WAS A
SHARP TACK AND ALWAYS HAD KIND WORDS FOR ANYONE HE EVER MET.
REST IN PEACE STEVE…. -WEB
Chris, Steve valued your friendship so much. Last time you were together he said it was like time had stood still.
Thanks for reaching out.
Would that more people were like Steve.
Joe, thank you so very much. He definitely was one special teacher!!
The news of Steve’s passing had left me with a heavy heart. I’ve worked at FPS with Steve my whole career. At first he taught econ at South and I was at Davies and we collaborated often as we were the only ones teaching econ in our respective schools. Eventually, we both taught econ together at Davies! I felt like a student the first few years! He taught me so much, not just about economics but about being a teacher who cares for their students. I have so missed talking, planning and dissecting the econ curriculum with him. Now, the AP Econ classes at Davies are mine to teach, but I tell you what, how intimidating it is to know what big shoes I have to fill! Please know that hints of Steve will always remain in the econ classroom, even if it’s just that SO MANY of the econ examples we use are taco related! 🌮
Steve was an amazing teacher, colleague and friend, he will be so very missed by Davies, especially those of us in the social studies department!
Chelsea, thank you for your very kind words. Steve was one very dedicated teacher. He loved South and Davies and his compadres (sp) with everything he had!! He is missed!!
I taught with Steve both at South and Davies. I thoroughly enjoyed his combination of wit and intelligence! And although much older than Steve, I was also a “student” of Steve’s. I watched and learned from him—I watched how he was able to maintain high standards in the classroom while also enabling each student to meet those standards. I marveled at how he would strive to connect with each student on a personal level while retaining the professional relationship. I continually saw Steve’s commitment — his many hours of prepping, grading etc and yet “moments” given to a young person were of utmost importance! Yes, Steve was an exemplary teacher who taught both the high school students and the older (his colleagues!)
I enjoyed the department get togethers and time together both in and outside of school! He could always make me laugh.
What a blessing it was to have known and worked with Steve! What an impactful man! So sorry for your loss.
Steve
Kathy, thank you for your kind words. I remember so often being on the phone with Steve and he would need to end the conversation to do the never ending of correcting
the students homework and tests. He loved every minute in the classroom (homework not so much). Steve felt he got back every bit of what he gave! You, his colleagues, have expressed over and over how Steve will be missed. We his family miss him terribly.
Steve was the one of the best teachers I have had a chance to work with and over my career in social studies and I worked with some of the best. I’ll always remember department meetings where he showed both his humor and common sense. He was always able to keep us on track. I will also remember Steve’s using pepper and spices on everything. He will be missed!
Richard, thank you so much for your great comments!! Steve was an extraordinary teacher and human being! Yes, pepper and spices always!! He wasn’t thrilled about being on a low salt diet!!! We miss him so.
I was one of his students during the 2019, 2020 school year. I was in his economics first semester of that school year. I had just moved to the area. so, I am visually impaired, and when I was visiting all my teachers to talk about accommodations before the year started, I had walked into his classroom to introduce myself to find that he had apparently researched how to make graphics accessible for a blind person, as economics is filled with a lot of graphics. I was impressed. he told me he was the “tough teacher“, and he was definitely telling the truth, but he was definitely one of the best, and he was one of my favorite teachers. I already knew I was gonna like him the first time I saw him and he showed me those graphics. economics was not my favorite class, I didn’t get the best grades, but he made the class fun every single day, and he showed his true personality while still being on topic with his class. I thought that was beautiful. Most teachers, you don’t see their personality at all, and they’re 100% serious all the time. Not him, he was a mixture of serious but also fun to be around. he definitely made his class fun and entertaining, and I will really miss him. I will never forget the ways he went above and beyond to make his class as accessible for me as possible, as economics is a very visual subject.
Lilli, Thank you for showing me another kind side of my son Steve. I am so pleased he went above and beyond for you and others. That seems a constant in all that I have read regarding his resolve to be the best he could be. Thanks again!!
Dale, Steve was well versed on many subjects!! After we named him, as years went by, his chatting became a more consistent type of talking g. Let’s just say that it’s then that we realized that we named him Stephen Douglas, the name of the renowned orator. We listened alot!!😁. He is already missed so very much!! Thank you for thinking of him.
Todd, Steve was so grateful for his time with you in his classroom. He truly respected you. Thanks so much.
Todd thank you for sharing your kind thoughts of Steve. He is already missed by many lives he touched.
Loretta, thank you for saying that. I think alot of Steves goodness just happened on his own. He is already missed terribly. Thanks for appreciating Steve.
Loretta thank you for sharing your kind thoughts about Steve. He truly was very protective of his friends and family. Steve was a wonderful man.
I had Mr.Arel for Econ and gov, he was the most influential teacher that I have ever had, my entire career came from Arel inspiring my interests in finance and politics.
Harrison, yes Steve had a way of inspiring people. He cared deeply and it showed.
Thanks for remembering him so kindly. Steve was a great man.
Harrison thank you for sharing your thoughts about Steve. The world is missing a great guy but Steve gets to be in heaven.
Mr. Arel was one of the most influential teachers during my senior year of high school. Not only did he help make sense of very tricky subjects for academics, he also enabled students to become better prepared for their future, something that is very rare in teachers. He also made the classroom setting very fun and engaging! His life is without a doubt one worth celebrating, and he will be dearly missed.
Tyler, Yes, Steve did have a way of explaining difficult concepts. He truly cared about his students and colleagues. Thanks for remembering Steve.
Tyler you are so right about Steve being passionate about preparing people for the future and he did it well! Thanks so sharing your memories.
John thank you so very much for remembering Steve how he’d want to be remembered.He was an excellent educator and will also be remembered for his kind manner.
Jane I so appreciate Steve being remembered as a fine man with a great love of people, especially his students and colleagues.
On behalf of the Economics program at Minnesota State University Moorhead, I extend our condolences to Steve’s family. Over the years, he brought hundreds of students to participate in MSUM’s Economics Challenge and his teams always did very well. It was clear that his students respected him and wanted to do well for him.
We were fortunate to hire Steve to teach part time for us; his dedication to teaching and students was evident throughout the semester. Personally, I always enjoyed our conversations with him. Our best to Steve’s family.
Dr. Flores, Steve spoke very highly of you and was so appreciative of his time at MSUM. Stephen was an excellent educator and human being as well. Thank you
He was one of the best teachers at Davies, and he was always fun to learn from, talk to in the mornings, have as a coach for knowledge bowl, and so much more. He will be sorely missed.
Elijah thank you for your thoughts of Steve. He truly cared about his family, students and colleagues.
I’m so very sorry to hear about Steve’s passing. We taught together at South, and I have many fond memories of bumping shoulders in the “cubicle farm.” He left a strong legacy in FPS, and he will be greatly missed. Much love to you all.
Dave thank you for remembering Steve at this difficult time. All these shared memories help a great deal.
Charley I understand. It is so difficult yet gratifying reading the wonderful ways in which
Steve inspired lives. It is so sad to know he won’t be in the classroom anymore.
Thank you for writing.
Aubrie you comments are so important for Steves family and me to read. They help us to hold to the knowledge that he will live on through his wonderful students and colleagues. Thank you!!
Travis thank you so much for sharing your kind memories. Steve was one of a kind snd truly cared about his friends and students.
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