Bette Deede

bette deede

Bette Deede , 58, West Fargo, ND, died Monday, March 7, 2011 at Sheyenne Crossings in West Fargo.

Bette J. Deede was born February 23, 1953, the daughter of Mary (Harbeke) and George Libbrecht, at West Fargo, ND.  She was reared on the family farm near West Fargo and graduated from West Fargo High School in 1971 and North Dakota State University with a B. A. in 1974.

Bette was united in marriage to Randy Deede on August 23, 1975 at Blessed Sacrament Church in West Fargo, ND.  They lived in Lakota, Grafton, and Devils Lake, where Randy practiced law and worked as a financial broker.

Bette was at home with the children and later worked in parish Faith Formation at Grafton and West Fargo, and at Devils Lake and Fargo/Cass Public Health Tobacco Prevention.

She is survived by her children Paul (Emily) and Thomas  Deede in Bismarck, ND; and John  Deede, Fargo; grandchildren: Ellie, Adelyn, Easton, all Bismarck; brother Ken (Rachel), Pasadena, CA; nephew Max and niece Alana.

Bette was preceded in death by her husband, parents and grandparents.

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  1. Devils Lake N.D
    .We would like to send our heartfelt sadness and grief. May God keep you together and keep you strong, now and always. The Parents of Darren Blazer

  2. Santa Rosa califDear Paul, Tom, and John and all the family. Marlys, myself, Cathy, Shawn and Clay send our deepest sympathy. We regret very much that we were not closer to be more support. We enjoyed your mother’s Christmas letters. We spent an afternoon with your mother and Mark and Jean Bopp at Jeff Bopps sons wedding. We did so enjoy your mothers wit and humor. She was a very wise lady. I sent several e-mails to her, but never receive a reply. If any of you come to Northern Calif. We would be glad to have you visit and spend some time with us at our residence. I am sure your Grandmother
    Lavon would want you to stop and stay.
    We will keep all of you and your Mother and Dad in our prayers.
    With Love and best regards,

  3. I, along with my many sisters and brother grew up on a neighboring farm to the Libbrechts. Betty, my sisters, and I would play together whenever we could and we attended 4-H club with her. I went to high school with your mom and was on the pom-pom squad with her as well. Betty always would use her quick wit to make everyone giggle right along with her. I was able to see Betty at Sheyenne Crossings the first of the year. She talked about and showed me pictures of her sons and her grandchildren. I immediately saw the love and pride she felt for each of you. She will be in your hearts forever. May God grant you all peace.


  4. Orlando Fl.I had the amazing opportunity to work with Bette for 10 years. I was her wine broker and I absolutely loved working with her. She was such an amazing woman and was so funny. She always would give a “smart …” comment to certain questions and then laugh quietly on the other end of the line. She was a great lady who would tell me lots of stories about her kids & grandchildren.
    The whole family is in my thoughts and prayers, I will miss her dearly b/c of the impression she made on me. I can only imagine how you all feel.
    God Bless

  5. So sorry to hear of Bette’s passing. I knew her in high school and she was always a breath of fresh air. My husband and Bette were classmates and I was a year behind them in school. I lost my husband three years ago to colon cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  6. Bismarck ND
    I had the benefit of working with Bette early in my career with the health department. She was a beautiful person with a caring and giving heart. She always had a smile for you and a kind word. Remember her smiling and talking. Remember her living and the memories that you created and shared. Take comfort in the way that she would want you to keep her memory close – not with sorrow, but with joy, peace and love. With special remembrance of your loved one – Susan

  7. Fargo ND
    Although my time knowing Bette was only a few years, she made a lasting impact on me. She was a woman of great fortitude, kindness, and wit. I loved her dearly and will miss her. My deepest sympathy to your family. Gone too soon and sadly missed.

  8. Greenbush MN
    Sorry to hear about your mom. She was a wonderful mother. I remember when I would stay over, she would always have great food and a lot of pop. I will keep you in my prayers. Take care

  9. Minot ND
    Dear John, Paul, Tom and family–

    Your mother was a gracious, loving, wonderful woman and I will miss her dearly. Her dry sense of humor played off mine so well and she could make me laugh at anything. Bette was a joy to spend time with and will never be replaced.
    She told me to come see her in the Spring & I think she knew she would not be there.
    I am so sorry that I can not be there. I just learned of your loss tonight. Please acceot my sincerest sympathies and know you are all in my heart and prayers.
    Your wonderful Mother is now with Mr. D again and will be watching over you all.

    With deep sympathy and love to all

  10. Grafton ND
    Paul, Tom, and John,

    My deepest sympathy to each of you. Everyone who loved Bette is feeling such a monumental loss. She was a wonderful friend, mother, and wife. Bette was so proud of you and the men you have become. I will carry many beautiful memories in my heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers.


  11. Bismarck ND
    Dear Deede Family,
    I am very sorry the loss of your mom, Bette. I had the privilage to work with her when she was the Relgious Ed. Director at Blessed Sacrament. We had lots of fun coordinating together Vacation Bible School in the summer of ’07. The theme was “Avalanche Ranch” and I was amazed at all of the cowboy themed items that Bette was able to get her hands on to turn the church into a real ranch. She loved working with kids and had such a fun- loving spirit about her. I am blessed to have known such a wonderful person.

  12. Devils Lake ND
    Betty was a wonderful Lady and will be greatly missed by many. Our sincere sympathy. We are sorry we cannot be with you at this time.

  13. Devils Lake ND
    Paul, Tom, and John,
    Rick and I want to express our deepest and heartfelt sympathies to you. We have such fond memories of both your mom and dad. Bette’s zest of life and quick wit would brighten anyone’s day. I can only imagine the deep feeling of loss that you are now experiencing. Please know that you will be in our prayers and we will ask God to give you strength for each new day and to comfort you in your sorrow.

  14. Pekin ND
    Those of us who had the privilege of knowing Bette will never forget her. I have many fond memories of working with her at the high school and church in Lakota. I am truly sorry we have lost such a wonderful woman and my heart goes out to you boys. Let her strong faith be a constant, shining example for each of you.

    With deep and sincere sympathy,

    Margo (Vasicek) Burthold

  15. Devils Lake We don’t think we ever had an encounter with Bette when we didn’t leave smiling and laughing. To say she had a quick wit is an understatement. Her old DL neighborhood will remember her fondly, probably in costume, with Randy by her side, at a block party.

  16. Devils Lake ND
    To Bette’s family: we are so sorry for your loss. I worked with Randy at Ramsey Bank and had the priviledge of betting to know Bette there as well. I worked with her on many projects and truly enjoyed being around Bette and Randy. Both were a breath of fresh air. I know God and Randy welcomed her to her heavenly home and I pray that he gives you strength during this very difficult time.

    Karen & Dennis Riggin

  17. Helena MTDear Bette,

    It was probably illegal to have as much fun as we did back in West Fargo. It was delightful getting to know you as woman of great strength and faith. I am going to miss your quick wit, solid resolve, and “can do” attitude. Until we reunite again,

    so long my dear friend,


  18. Dear family and Friends, as you say goodbye to your dear sweet Bette, I pray you will always hold in your heart and memories the unique personality of such a beautiful woman. Her smile was contagious, her warmth was so embracing. May God be with you all as He carries His beloved servant, Bette, home where she dances with angels and basks in the Glory of God. In sympathy and love, Debbie Brand

  19. Minot ND
    My condolensces to all the family and friends of Bette. Bette will remain a vibrant, energetic, positive person in my memory. I loved her laugh and zest for life and people. I knew Bette through public health and always sought her out whenever I was able to do so. She had a tremendous positive influence on all around her. Take care of yourselves during this stressful time. God bless you and may he hold you all in the palm of his hand. Kelly

  20. Langdon ND
    Paul, Tom and John,
    Just wanted to express my deepest sympathy to you in the loss of your Mom. I worked with your Dad at the bank in Langdon, when he would come up from Grafton. Your folks were SO much fun to be around, SO entertaining and genuine! I have thought about Bette several times since your Dad’s passing, wondering how things were going for her. They were truly one-of-a kind and so perfectly matched for each other. And my goodness, how PROUD they were of their sons! I am so blessed to have known first your Dad, then your dear, dear mother. Wishing you God’s blessings and comfort, Nancy & Wayne Coyle, Langdon, ND

  21. West Fargo ND
    Deede family, I did not know your mom but was a classmate of your dads @WHS. We always sat together as you can see by my maiden name. Your dad was such a sweet guy and sounds like your mom was a wonderful mate. Please accept my condolences on the loss of both of your parents at such a young age.

  22. Devils Lake ND
    The Deede Family, The world lost a dear lady on March 7th. Her battle with cancer over the past years was a tough one. She remained strong in her faith, upbeat in her attitude and courageous in the fight against this terrible disease. I so enjoyed working with Bette at LRDHU and being a part of the Relay for Life team with her for a few years until she left Devils Lake and moved to Fargo. She will always be remembered in our hearts. She made an impact on every person she crossed paths with. She taught morals to her family and set a great example of how one should live each day that is granted by our Father, GOD. My sympathies to the family as you mourn the loss of your Mother, Grandmother, Sister, Dearest Friend. GOD bless and keep you strong.

  23. Minot ND
    My heart has so much sorrow to learn of your mom’s passing. Bette was such a inspiration. She truly dealt with life’s challenges with grace and humor. I hope you find comfort in knowing her suffering and pain is gone. May you find strength in Christ during this time of grief. Your mom will be in many people’s hearts forever.

  24. Lakota ND
    Our prayers are with you boys & your family. Your mom was such a brave & strong lady. We had such fun together & manyt laughs together when we went golfing.. She will truely be missed by everyone & will always be my Mrs. D.
    We loved her so. Love Jack & Pam

  25. Lakota N D Family-
    May you have peace knowing Bette is now free of all pain. She was a grand gal, we so enjoyed her when she lived in Lakota. May she give you all an eternal love thru God.
    God Bless You All.
    We will keep you in our prayers.
    Carol & Leonard

  26. Devils Lake Deede’s,
    There are so many wonderful memories of Betty I have. With her positive attitude and quick wit, she was one of those people you always enjoyed being around. Mostly, I appreciated the person she was being a great example and reminder of the person we can and all should be. Betty will greatly be missed but always remembered.

  27. Dear Bette’s family,
    Bette had so much exuberance for life and such a deep faith…she impacted so many people… we are all so blessed by her presence and deeply saddened by her absence. I learned alot from her and had great respect and admiration for her! You are in my thoughts and prayers as you journey in this grief… I know Bette will help you all by sending her love and comfort from Heaven.
    My condolences,
    Colleen Larson

  28. Fargo ND
    Bette, you fought a tough battle with grace and dignity. You were a true inspiration to us all. We loved you so much and you will always be in our hearts and memories.

  29. Bismarck To Bette’s family: Thanks for sharing this wonderful person with us. The world was made better because of her. Those of us whose lives she influenced will try our best to do what she did so well: enjoy life, keep a sense of humor, and don’t let things get us down. I miss Bette. I will always miss Bette. I can only imagine how much you do, too.

  30. west fargo ND
    Bette was a great friend for more than 40 years. The world will not be the same without my dear friend in it. I love you with all my heart.


  31. Tom, Paul and John,
    Your mom was such an amazingly wonderful person…I am so sorry for your loss.

    My deepest sympathy,
    Holly Scott

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