Brenda Ray Koshney, 62, Fargo, ND passed away in her home under the care of Red River Valley Hospice, Wednesday, June 24, 2020, blanketed in love and prayer, surrounded by her family after a 3 ½ year battle with cancer. Visitation will be from 6 – 7 p.m., with a prayer service and celebration of life at 7 p.m., Monday, June 29, at Boulger Funeral Home in Fargo. Visitation will continue from 10 – 11 a.m., followed by a Funeral Mass at 11 a.m., Tuesday, June 30, at St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church in Fargo. The Funeral Mass will be streamed live on the funeral home’s website. Burial will occur in the following weeks at Balfour Cemetery in Balfour, ND. Brenda, the fourth daughter of Robert Cyril and Roberta Joan (Hegge) Alme was born September 23, 1957 and raised in Drake. She graduated from Drake Public High School in 1975, participating in track, band, chorus, paper staff, yearbook staff, pep club and basketball. Brenda furthered her education at North Dakota State University, graduating with a Bachelor of Science degree in criminal justice and social work and later earning a degree, from North Hennepin Community College, to conduct paralegal services. On August 13, 1988, Brenda was united in marriage to Michael Jon Koshney at St. Mary’s Cathedral in Fargo after devoting nearly ten years to one another. A testament to Brenda’s wonderful and clever sense of humor, she had imprinted wedding napkins with the phrase, “it’s about time”. Mike and Brenda made their home in Fargo where they raised their two children, Cameron Jon Koshney and Ellen Marie Koshney. Brenda’s professional life spanned the paralegal and trust administrative services world, spending the majority of her career with American Bank and Trust, Heartland Trust, and Bank of the West. Brenda spent a short period of time working with M & J Auto Parts, becoming a part of a team and position she truly enjoyed each day. She retired from The Title Company six months after her diagnosis to focus on her family and her health. Brenda was a forever friend, enjoying and cherishing the many friendships from her youth, professional career, and beyond, many of which continue to this day. Evident to all who knew Brenda, and even those mere acquaintances who crossed her path, was her complete pure heart of gold. Brenda’s greatest gift was the time she invested in others, including her family and friends. Brenda always had a list to complete and a mission to help someone else. She was selfless and strong in her convictions. She lived by example to do good and be kind, something that will resonate with all of her loved ones forever. She was strong in her faith and service to the Lord and belief in finding good in all. She was the catalyst for family reunions and connections. Her beauty, light, sense of humor, inner strength are the core for her family and those around her. She instilled the commitment to carry on traditions, repair, appreciate and embrace the old and the past with fun new approaches. She emphatically pushed for appreciation of reusing and refurbishing sentimental artifacts with her incredible creativity. Brenda loved crafting and home décor. She saw the beauty and use in something old and eclectic by bringing it new life through preservation, repurposing and making it beautiful all over again. She had an eye and creative flair that was unmatched. Her husband and children, her extended family and friends were her heart. When in need, Brenda was a beloved cook and baker, always sharing her fantastic meals, desserts and salads to those in crisis. Brenda’s flowers and gardens are the envy to all who visit the Koshney home. An avid gardener, butterfly and bumblebee lover, her choices were always conducive to their needs, nourishment and attractions. Brenda made sure that birds, squirrels, and other neighborhood wildlife were always well fed. Her children, nieces, nephews and the many friends of her own children were on the receiving end of Brenda’s mega love and influence. Brenda was known as “Mom Kosh” to many. Brenda loved Hegge’s Petunia Place at Lake Audubon, ND, spending time in Minnesota lakes country with Mike and her sisters and Bison games with her extended family, the “Trailgators”. Our dear Brenda will be so deeply missed. Brenda is survived by her husband, her children, Cameron and Ellen, and her siblings, Beryl (John) McLaughlin, Barbara (Mark) Stroop, Beth (Greg) Black, Robert “Bo” Alme and Bryce (Wade) Johnson, her beloved mother–in–law, Emma Koshney and many other very dear in-laws; and also multitudes of nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews from the Alme and Koshney families. Brenda was preceded in death by her parents, her grandparents, Roy and Ruth Hegge and Joseph and Elizabeth Alme and father-in-law, Edward Koshney. Brenda's Live Streamed Funeral Mass can be viewed on Boulger Funeral Home's Facebook Page at If there are any technical difficulties, it will be uploaded to her obituary page on our website later this afternoon. Thank you!

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  1. A true friend and wonderful person with such a great sense of humor. She will be truly missed!!

  2. Mike and family
    We are so sorry for your loss. Brenda was a very talented and loving person.
    Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
    Mel and Erin Klingenberg

  3. I remember visiting Drake and hanging with you and Jeff. That beautiful smile and the laughter we shared. RIP Cuz. Someday we’ll all be united in God’s presence. Prayers for you and your family. God bless.

  4. My heart goes out to you all at this time. Bryce, I also couldn’t stop smiling as I read the words about Brenda. It is so 100% Brenda!! When I went to visit you, Bryce, in Drake from Minot, and I first met Brenda (“Bryce’s 1st older sister that I had met to that point”)…it was so neat to see my buddy with an older sister who was so funny and cool. It felt like I was looking up to someone wise and knowledgeable and I could pretend she was my older sister too. That first time I visited your house in Drake, there was the unfinished shower in the bathroom and Brenda took me aside and described “how to” do it all. She described how I should step over the wood to get inside and then close the 2 clear overlapping plastic pieces and start the shower. The humor with which she described all of this was hilarious to me…even to this day!! It also stood out to me what a special couple Brenda and Mike always were. Thank you for the friendship. I will be there with you all in spirit on Monday & Tuesday this week. Love, Heather Hansen Burk (living out in Hillsboro Oregon now)

  5. I am so shocked and sorry to seethat Brenda has gained her angel wings. I worked with Brenda at American Bank and just enjoyed her so much. She always had such a fun sense of humor. I am sorry Mike and kids for your temporary loss. Remember that she will be with you every minute of every day. If you think you see a sign from her…you have, it is her. The next time you see her, it will be forever🙏😇💖

  6. Mike and family and Bryce and family, I am so sad and so sorry for your immeasurable loss. I remember when we moved back to Fargo, I was so delighted to find that we belonged to the same parish. A fellow Drake-ian! We saw each other fairly regularly for a number of years, and her wry sense of humor and funny observations always made me laugh. She was lovely inside and out and I am so sorry for the big hole in all of your hearts. She is gone far too soon, but how lucky she was to have a devoted husband, loving children, and caring, fun siblings. I will continue to pray for peace for all of you.

  7. Mike and Family: I was so sorry to hear of Brenda’s passing. Please know I will keep her, and all of you in my thoughts and prayers, as you celebrate her accomplished life on Earth, in the full knowledge that God has welcomed her home in Heaven.
    In Sympathy,
    Cindy Eggl

  8. Mike, I wish I knew her better. She seemed so remarkable and loved by so many. May Brenda Rest In Peace and you and your kids find true meaning in her life. She died far too young, but she was surrounded in love.

  9. Mike and family, We are so sorry for your loss. God has a plan for all of us. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Sig and Bella

  10. Mike and Family,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Know that prayers for your and your family are coming your way in these difficult times.

  11. Brenda was a co-worker of mine at Bank of the West for almost 10 years. She was a treat to be around. Her laughter and humor kept us in good spirits! After we moved on to other jobs or retirement, the 6 pack gang, got together for a dinner and/or drinks (Rum and Coke) regularly at a local restaurant or bar. We truly enjoyed her company with her stories! She could tell a good story! Always fun to be around! Her brownies were a favorite! She would make a batch in the morning and bring to us at work! Still warm. No one could duplicate her recipe. She loved her family especially. I know she will be missed! May she rest in Peace with Jesus.

  12. Brenda was my caribou customer at Express Hornbachers. I always enjoyed her coming in. She was a kind hearted person, so funny! So sorry for your loss.

  13. My deepest sympathy and prayers to the Koshney family as you mourn your beloved Brenda. My heart aches for all of you. Colleen (Miller) Rohrer

  14. Dear Mike and family, So sorry for your loss. It is so true Brenda touched others as I still remember well enjoying her company in class at MSU. My thoughts and prayers.

  15. I had the privilege of working with Brenda at Bank of the West many years ago. I loved stopping by her desk because her quick wit and great sense of humor always gave me a good laugh. She was a very caring person, she loved her children and her entire family. She will be missed dearly.

  16. Mike. Such a beautiful obituary! My heart hurts for you and your family. GOD BLESS all of you!

  17. Sorry for your loss. The times we were together Brenda made it a lot of fun.

  18. Mike, Cam, Ellen, Bryce, and all family members and friends,
    We are so sorry about Brenda! A few days after we moved to the neighborhood 15 years ago, Brenda showed up at our door with the best-tasting homemade brownies, a big smile, and a warm welcome to the neighborhood. We’ve always enjoyed seeing and visiting with her since then. She was an amazing individual! We will miss her.

  19. I had the privilege of working with Brenda at Bank of the West. She was a hoot to work with! Her sense humor was the best. Family stories, quick wit and our our Cando connection stories. Brenda will be missed by many.

  20. Whenever I think of Brenda I picture the smile, hear the laugh, and feel the kindness. That is how I’ll always remember her. Thinking of you Mike and family.

  21. Mike, my thoughts and prayers are with you. So sorry. Sympathies, too, from Brenda’s former co-workers at Wheeler/McCartney and The Title Company.

  22. Mike and Family, Brenda’s sibs, I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, mother and sister. She had so much life in so little time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  23. Our hearts are your loss of wife and mother. We send our love to you,
    Mike , Ellen, & Cam

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