Brenda Ray (Alme) Koshney

Brenda Ray Koshney, 62, Fargo, ND passed away in her home under the care of Red River Valley Hospice, Wednesday, June 24, 2020, blanketed in love and prayer, surrounded by her family after a 3 ½ year battle with cancer. Visitation will be from 6 – 7 p.m., with a prayer service and celebration of life at 7 p.m., Monday, June 29, at Boulger Funeral Home in Fargo. Visitation will continue from 10 – 11 a.m., followed by a Funeral Mass at 11 a.m., Tuesday, June 30, at St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church in Fargo. The Funeral Mass will be streamed live on the funeral home’s website. Burial will occur in the following weeks at Balfour Cemetery in Balfour, ND. Brenda, the fourth daughter of Robert Cyril and Roberta Joan (Hegge) Alme was born September 23, 1957 and raised in Drake. She graduated from Drake Public High School in 1975, participating in track, band, chorus, paper staff, yearbook staff, pep club and basketball. Brenda furthered her education at North Dakota State University, graduating with a Bachelor of Science degree in criminal justice and social work and later earning a degree, from North Hennepin Community College, to conduct paralegal services. On August 13, 1988, Brenda was united in marriage to Michael Jon Koshney at St. Mary’s Cathedral in Fargo after devoting nearly ten years to one another. A testament to Brenda’s wonderful and clever sense of humor, she had imprinted wedding napkins with the phrase, “it’s about time”. Mike and Brenda made their home in Fargo where they raised their two children, Cameron Jon Koshney and Ellen Marie Koshney. Brenda’s professional life spanned the paralegal and trust administrative services world, spending the majority of her career with American Bank and Trust, Heartland Trust, and Bank of the West. Brenda spent a short period of time working with M & J Auto Parts, becoming a part of a team and position she truly enjoyed each day. She retired from The Title Company six months after her diagnosis to focus on her family and her health. Brenda was a forever friend, enjoying and cherishing the many friendships from her youth, professional career, and beyond, many of which continue to this day. Evident to all who knew Brenda, and even those mere acquaintances who crossed her path, was her complete pure heart of gold. Brenda’s greatest gift was the time she invested in others, including her family and friends. Brenda always had a list to complete and a mission to help someone else. She was selfless and strong in her convictions. She lived by example to do good and be kind, something that will resonate with all of her loved ones forever. She was strong in her faith and service to the Lord and belief in finding good in all. She was the catalyst for family reunions and connections. Her beauty, light, sense of humor, inner strength are the core for her family and those around her. She instilled the commitment to carry on traditions, repair, appreciate and embrace the old and the past with fun new approaches. She emphatically pushed for appreciation of reusing and refurbishing sentimental artifacts with her incredible creativity. Brenda loved crafting and home décor. She saw the beauty and use in something old and eclectic by bringing it new life through preservation, repurposing and making it beautiful all over again. She had an eye and creative flair that was unmatched. Her husband and children, her extended family and friends were her heart. When in need, Brenda was a beloved cook and baker, always sharing her fantastic meals, desserts and salads to those in crisis. Brenda’s flowers and gardens are the envy to all who visit the Koshney home. An avid gardener, butterfly and bumblebee lover, her choices were always conducive to their needs, nourishment and attractions. Brenda made sure that birds, squirrels, and other neighborhood wildlife were always well fed. Her children, nieces, nephews and the many friends of her own children were on the receiving end of Brenda’s mega love and influence. Brenda was known as “Mom Kosh” to many. Brenda loved Hegge’s Petunia Place at Lake Audubon, ND, spending time in Minnesota lakes country with Mike and her sisters and Bison games with her extended family, the “Trailgators”. Our dear Brenda will be so deeply missed. Brenda is survived by her husband, her children, Cameron and Ellen, and her siblings, Beryl (John) McLaughlin, Barbara (Mark) Stroop, Beth (Greg) Black, Robert “Bo” Alme and Bryce (Wade) Johnson, her beloved mother–in–law, Emma Koshney and many other very dear in-laws; and also multitudes of nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews from the Alme and Koshney families. Brenda was preceded in death by her parents, her grandparents, Roy and Ruth Hegge and Joseph and Elizabeth Alme and father-in-law, Edward Koshney. Brenda's Live Streamed Funeral Mass can be viewed on Boulger Funeral Home's Facebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/BoulgerFuneralHome/. If there are any technical difficulties, it will be uploaded to her obituary page on our website later this afternoon. Thank you!