Carmen Howell

carmen howell
Carmen Kay Howell, 64, Detroit Lakes, MN, died Tuesday, February 4, 2020, surrounded by her daughters and husband. She fought a courageous battle with cancer. Carmen Carlson was born November 10, 1955 in Bertha, MN to Donald and Florence (Eisenbraun) Carlson. She graduated from Clarissa High School in 1973, attended Moorhead State University, and graduated from NDSU in 1978 with a degree in Home Economics. Carmen met Greg Jerlow during their time at MSU and married on June 10, 1978. Carmen worked with an insurance office for a brief time, before joining her husband for a long career in education at Kindred High School. Carmen taught Home Economics for eleven years before stepping into the Counselor role at KHS for twenty years after obtaining her Master’s in Counseling from NDSU. Carmen and Greg lovingly raised their family in Kindred, and the community was a bigger family for both of them. Following Greg’s passing from cancer in 2001, Carmen was lucky to find love again and married Joe Howell June 29, 2007. Upon retirement, they found a little piece of heaven on Little Floyd Lake in Detroit Lakes, MN. Carmen was truly a loving, passionate, nurturing woman who gave the best hugs and had a talent for making others feel important with her kindness and warm generosity. With one look, hug, or question, she had the gift of connecting with people on a deep and sincere level. Carmen was very involved in her communities, loved her friends, engaged her faith family, and nurtured so many with her gardening and cooking talents. She was a dedicated educator and loved serving her community through her work on the Park Board, Library Board, and the Booster Club. Carmen was a faith filled woman and found joy singing with the Kindred Lutheran Church Choir, teaching Sunday School, and enjoyed her quiet peace with God floating in the lake catching sunfish. Despite many adversities, she taught us how to live and love life. She loved to have fun, dance, and laugh, especially when she beat someone, specifically Joe, in cards. Carmen loved her ladies, whether she was having a glass of wine, discussing a good book, quilting beautiful works of art, or sharing her favorite new recipe. She was the best daughter, mom, wife, sister, aunt, grandma and friend. Her family was her very soul, especially her grandkids. She cherished gardening with her mother and passing that knowledge onto her grandkids teaching them about magic peas and beautiful pink flowers. Spending countless hours in the bleachers cheering on her daughters or taking time to listen to their worries on the kitchen floor was where Carmen’s beauty shined. Carmen demonstrated her love for others with food and there were many teacher’s lounges, church potlucks, and holiday gatherings that benefited from her gifts. She is survived by her husband, Joe, Detroit Lakes, MN; daughters Katie (Jason; Ava and Olivia) Baskin, Austin, MN and Paige (Michael) Barbero, Boise, ID; brother, Vic (Peggy) Carlson, Browerville, MN; sister in-law, Rhonda (Joel; Jessi, Nick, and Zac Akers) Young, Dilworth, MN; step-children Matt (Casey; Tierney and Sutton) Howell, West Fargo, ND and Chris (Amy; Nora) Howell, Mapleton, ND; special nieces Jennifer (Brian; Parker and Emily) Tjaden, Hawley, MN and Jerene (Jason; Mallorie and Karisa) Redfield, West Fargo, ND. She was preceded in death by her husband, Greg Jerlow; daughter, Leah Jerlow; and parents Donald and Florence Carlson. Visitation: Friday, February 7, from 5-7pm, with a prayer service at 7pm at Kindred Lutheran Church, Kindred, ND. Funeral: Saturday, February 8, at 11am at Kindred Lutheran Church, Kindred, ND.

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  1. Deepest sympathies to all of Carmen’s family…she was one fantastic lady and will be greatly missed!🙏🙏

  2. My deepest sympathy to the family of Carmen. I met Carmen & Joe in Detroit Lakes on the pickle ball courts so became friends with them at that time. We will miss seeing her smiling face. May God comfort you at this difficult time. You will be in my prayers.

  3. Our deepest sympathy to Joe and all of Carmen’s family. We got to know Carmen and Joe at the DLCC in Detroit Lakes also enjoying pizza after a Bison football game. Rest in Peace Carmen. Sue & Dale Twedt

  4. Joe & family,

    So sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathy and best wishes for your family as you go through this difficult time.

    Jay & Linda Melland

  5. Katie, Paige, and Joe, you know how much we loved Carm. Our hearts have lost a piece when she flew to heaven. Keeping ALL of you in our thoughts and prayers with each breath we take. Love you ALL!

  6. Joe,
    We are deeply saddened to hear about Carmen. She was such a great lady! We loved talking to her at the boys’ events and always loved getting a great big hug from her!

    Please know that you are in our prayers!

  7. Oh My Gosh, she is beautiful! I am humbled to have been her friend and being able to be a small part of her loving family. I will miss you terribly!

  8. Katie and Paige,
    Your Mom was one of my favorite teachers. I had her for Home Ec for many years. She was new to teaching and newly married to your Dad when she taught me as I graduated in 1984! She was a wonderful teacher and I admired her so much. She was a beautiful person and had such a beautiful family too. I always enjoyed chatting with her when I would be back in Kindred for something and would see her. She always was so happy to see me and interested to hear about my life I am so very sorry for your loss. She will be missed by so many. Cherish all the wonderful memories.

    Shirley Stelton-Williams

  9. Joe and family,

    Carmen was an angel in life and truly is an angel now. She was the sweetest!
    Hugs and prayers to you!

  10. Carmen was a childhood friend that I have many fond memories of. She was a beautiful person and my thoughts and prayers go out to all her family. With deepest sympathy.

  11. We are sorry for your loss Joe and family. We never had the pleasure of meeting Carmen, everything we have heard she was a very special lady. Take care.

  12. So sorry to hear of Carmen’s passing. She was a wonderful guide for all the kids she counseled at Kindred and a good friend to all. She will be greatly missed.


  13. Joe, Chris and the Howell Family,
    Sending you thoughts of love and peace during this difficult time.
    Your friends at the Osgood golf course

  14. Please accept our deepest condolences for you and all of your family. My God’s light pierce the darkness of your loss.

  15. Katie and Paige my deepest sympathies to you. Your parents will always hold very special memories in my heart. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful video tribute. May God bless you with continued strength during this very difficult time.

  16. Carmen was a great role model in what it means to be a person of character. I was fortunate to have her as one of my role models while in school. May God’s strength provide comfort during this difficult time.

  17. We are sending our condolences to the family of a wonderful person and remarkable counselor. Carmen improved the lives of so many.
    With sympathy,
    Jill Nelson, Associate Dean, College of Human Sciences and Education and Professor, NDSU Counseling program.

  18. I was so sorry to hear of Carmen’s passing. I met Carmen while teaching Family and Consumer Science and advising FCCLA. She was so upbeat and happy that she made it very pleasant to work with her. I also got to work along side of her later when I did some substitute teaching in Kindred. After she retired, I would occasionally bump into her and true to Carmen’s nature, she would take the time to visit as though no time had passed. Your family lost a wonderful person. My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time.

    I have sent a memorial in her name to the Enderlin HEART program that aids the elderly population in the area. No thank you is necessary.

  19. I was sorry to read about Carmen’s passing. I always looked forward to seeing her when I worked in Kindred. Not only did I learn about professionalism from her, but also kindness and compassion for all kids. She was so proud of Katie and Paige; I could always count on an update on school and careers when I stopped in to see her!

  20. Katie and Paige,
    We just received word about the passing of your mom! We are so very Sorry! I grew up with Greg, Rhonda, and Darlene and Vernon. Truly wonderful people. Carmen came to our class reunions and sometimes we’d get together when they came to visit. She was warm, kind, and funny! So sad! I bet she was the best grandma too! Thank you for sharing the video! She embraced life!
    Amy Voss

  21. Mrs. Jerlow was my Home Ec teacher back in the 80’s! She always used the overhead projector, gave us trail mix to ear during class and had a special love for teaching! She was always available for a visit-encouraging me whenever I needed it! Mr. Jerlow was also my teacher and his passion for life was also amazing!! Love her dearly! Peace and comfort to you all!
    Melody (Boe)
    Class of 1988

  22. I’m sorry to learn that Carmen passed away. She was my teacher at Kindred for home economics and psychology. I will always remember how she taught us that you should lather the shampoo on your hair until your scalp tingles. That was a huge lesson on the importance of self-care to me. And because of her, I love a clean kitchen sink! She was a great teacher. 🦋

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