Carol Dianne Miller

carol miller

October 7, 1940 ~ September 27, 2022

Born in: Fargo, ND
Resided in: Wadena, MN

Carol Dianne (Merrigan) Miller was born in Fargo, North Dakota on October 7th, 1940. She was the eldest child of Clinton and Grace (Lillian) Merrigan. She loved being a big sister to her younger brother, Ronald (Ron), and they shared many adventures together. Carol was deeply impacted by the sudden and unexpected loss of Ron, and she continued to miss him until the day she died. Carol died on September 27th, 2022, at age 81 at Fair Oaks Lodge nursing home in Wadena, Minnesota. She cared most about her family, faith, friendships, and living life to the fullest.

In early adulthood, Carol was married to Kenneth Olson. She graduated from Mapleton High School in 1958. Later in life, Carol remarried Friedrich Miller and raised their children together at their family farm in Durbin, North Dakota. Besides her role as a mother and homemaker, Carol had several other jobs to support her family including being a musician, nurse’s aide, DJ, cake decorator, bookkeeper, and restaurant owner. She greatly enjoyed being a musician in multiple different bands including Carol’s Kats, Carol and the Country, and Movin’ On. Music always brought a smile to Carol’s face and was her favorite way to celebrate and grieve alike. She always said music was the main thing that kept her feeling “alive” even as she aged and was not able to do some of the things she used to enjoy.

Carol traveled and lived many different places over the years. She could make a “home” almost anywhere and lived in Mapleton, North Dakota; Havre, Montana; Casselton, North Dakota; Durbin, North Dakota; Fargo, North Dakota; Horace, North Dakota; New York Mills, Minnesota with granddaughter Brittnee; and lastly in Perham, Minnesota with her eldest daughter Kimberly.

Carol is survived by her children: Kimberly Wright, Karla Jo (Todd) McDougal, Kari (Kenny) Green, and Chad (Shannon) Miller. She enjoyed loving and watching her many grandchildren and 13 great-grandchildren grow, including Tony (Sarah) Hersch, Ashlee (Richard) Shipman, Brittnee (Caleb) Monson, James (Cassie) Hersch, Michael (Desiree) Gadd, Joseph Gadd, Kaity McDougal (Jack), Zach Miller, and Janikka Miller. Carol is also survived by her long-time partner Mitch Erbstoesser. Carol was also close with her sister-in-law Margaret (Larry) Hoffmann, nephews Steve (Mirna) Merrigan, Brent (Jolene) Merrigan, and nieces Marty Jo (Tom) Byers, and Jill (Aaron) Wendel.

Carol loved playing cards, baking, singing, playing/listening to music, and traveling to new places. Carol never missed an opportunity to celebrate a birthday and send a birthday wish through song. Carol cherished her pets over the years including her most recent companion, Lacey Lu that she rescued from a local shelter. Lacey was a perfect fit for Carol.

Carol had many family and friend relationships that were life-long. Once you met Carol, you wouldn’t be able to forget her. She had an energetic and welcoming presence that could leave anyone feeling like a part of “her family.” Carol never seemed to shy away from helping those in times of need. She always had more room in her heart to love others. This had to be her spiritual gift. Carol helped to encourage others in their relationship with God, specifically though her role as the children’s music director and bible schoolteacher at Canaan Moravian Church in Davenport, North Dakota. Carol felt a deep sense of community and spirituality through this church and often shared memories of her time spent there.

Words cannot capture the joy and light that Carol brought to this world, and she will be greatly missed by all who knew her. She lived a life of service to others and was grateful for each day she was granted. No matter the hardship, Carol could find a reason to smile and count her blessings, including all of you.


Visitation - Friday: October 7, 2022 9:00 am

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103


Funeral Service - Friday: October 7, 2022 10:00 am

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103



Sunset Memorial Gardens
1715 52nd Ave
Fargo, ND 58104

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  1. So sorry for your loss Csrol was one special lady she will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

    • Thanks so much David!! Mom enjoyed the beautiful roses you sent her. It really brightened up her days💜

  2. Dear Kim and Brittnee and all those who loved Carol,
    While words are not enough, I wanted to express my sympathy for you during this difficult time. It is not easy to lose a family member, especially your Mom and Grandma. Celebrate her memory with small gestures – play her favorite song, or visiting a place that was dear to her. My thoughts are with you. Sending much love and many hugs.

  3. I’m so glad I met Carol, she was always so kind to me! I was lucky enough to be invited to one of her birthday parties at the lake in Minnesota, so much fun!!
    My prayers are with her family!
    Rest In Peace 💜💜💜💜

    • Thank you Lori! We will have another birthday celebration on Friday. She always liked you and asked about you often. Thanks for being a great friend. 💜💜💜

  4. I was so sorry to hear of Carol’s passing. Carol called me after my mother had passed away and we had a nice visit. Our parents were good friends and we spent time together when we were younger. My dad also played the accordion. She was a very talented lady and will surely be missed.

  5. Mom you will be missed I remember the time you tried teaching me how to make homemade pizza crust. When it was time to toss it and mine got stuck on the ceiling. I thought you would never stop laughing. While your up there enjoying the beauty of heaven you better keep up the practicing of your card games. I’m determined to win the next time we see each other. Love you.

    • Aww dear this is so precious & sweet💜 Momma loved you and always loved playing cards and skip Bo. Actually she enjoyed beating us at every game we played 😁 She absolutely loved and wore the purple sweater you bought during one of her many visits to Ohio daily! 💜I love you💜

  6. Sorry to hear of Carol’s passing. She was a link to my mother’s family and my mother, Marylis nee Larson had many, many good times with her cousin Carol in their early years. Carol was dedicated to maintaining family ties and will be missed by our family.

  7. Kim and family, I remember your mom very well. She was always so proud of her kids and grandkids. Carol’s sense of humor was always present. A very kind and friendly lady. I know you’ll all miss her forever. Your family were always so kind and loving.
    Sincerest sympathy.


  8. Dear Carol,
    As you Rest in Paradise in Gods Hands You Will Be in our Hearts Forever. You will be truly missed by all who knew and loved you.
    Love and Prayers to all the families and friends at this time of loss.

    • Thank you! Your condolences are beautiful and very thoughtful. You two are the best in-laws I could ask for – love you! 💜

  9. Kim and all,
    I am saddened to hear of Carol’s passing. I hope all your memories help you during this time. As you know the neighborhood card club ladies have been meeting most of our lives. What I remember most abut that group when my mom hosted was your mom’s laugh. I could always hear it while “trying” to fall asleep upstairs and she laughed often. All 8 of them laughed often. That was/is quite a group.

    We pray for God’s comfort for all of you during this time.
    Mark and Donna Berge

  10. So sorry to see the news about your Mother, Carol. My thoughts are with you Kim and Britnee. Sincee sympathies! Bill Andersen

  11. Carol I always loved seeing you ..Always happy go lucky and jolly ! Your cooking was out of this world . Your laugh was contagious 🤣. Rest Easy lady ! You will be missed greatly .

  12. I remember when Carol got her first accordion. She would play ( There’s a new moon over my shoulder ) over and over until she got it right. She entertained a lot of people with her musical talent. Rest well Carol.

  13. So sorry for your loss. Carol was one of a kind. I met her many years ago at bowling, and we became friends. Charlie and I would go dancing wherever she was playing. We loved her music. I enjoyed her sense of humor, we had many good laughs. Rest In Peace Carol. Keep playing the music we all loved, and you enjoyed playing as well. 🙏🙏🙏. Jo

  14. So sorry for your loss. We certainly enjoyed the many musical talents Carol lovingly shared in Canaan. What a beautiful way to celebrate her on her date of birth.

  15. So sorry to hear of Carol’s passing. My condolences to the family. I have many fond memories of Carol over these past 55+ years. I always loved dancing to the music that Carol was so gifted in playing…and although we didn’t see each other very much in recent years, I appreciated those brief encounters and the laughter and reminiscing we shared! I was sorry that I was unable to attend her funeral in person but I am grateful that I could attend it virtually. It was a lovely service honoring Carol. May you find comfort in your faith, your family and your memories.

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