Cassandra "Cassi" Bernier

Cassandra “Cassi” Ruth Bernier, 53, Fargo, ND, died October 2nd, 2019 at Sanford Hospital in Fargo, ND, surrounded by family, from complications due to a heart attack suffered on October 2nd, 2019. Cassi was born on November 30th, 1965 at Unity Hospital in Fridley, MN to Dick and Char Petroske. Cassi graduated from Coon Rapids High School in 1984 and attended college at the University of Minnesota. Cassi married Tom Bernier on February 24th, 2007 in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, surrounded by numerous family and friends. Cassi had a tremendous work ethic and and was incredibly organized. She brought those skills to all the jobs she held and put her stamp on all of them. At the time of her death, Cassi worked at Home Heating and Air Conditioning as a Dispatcher/Scheduler in the service department. Cassi also worked as a 911 Dispatcher at Red River Regional Dispatch Center in Fargo and with the Pembina County Sheriff’s Office in Cavalier, ND. Cassi also served as the Executive Director of the Domestic Violence and Abuse Center in Grafton, ND. Cassi’s organizational skills were on full display in her kitchen, which was her domain. A glass of wine or two were usually enjoyed while she worked in her kitchen. She was a true “Domestic Goddess”, as one of her aprons stated. Cassi loved to cook and bake and share her culinary creations with everybody. Her kitchen contained every gadget imaginable and all organized impeccably. Cassi had a spitfire personality and was full of life. She meant what she said and said what she meant. Cassi loved to read crime fiction, complete crossword puzzles, and watch Jeopardy with Tom. Cassi loved to spoil her nieces and nephews, as well as her cats, Leo and Lilly. Cassi doted endlessly on Tom and made his co-workers envious that she prepared his packed lunches for him. Cassi was very proud to be a Fargo Police wife. She was one of a kind and will be terribly missed. Cassi is survived by her husband, Tom, Fargo, ND; father, Dick Petroske, Osakis, MN; sister, Lynn (Steve) Peterson, Forest Lake, MN; brothers, Dave Petroske, Charlotte, NC, and Gene (Pam) Petroske, Anoka, MN; 5 nieces and nephews (Kris, Matt, Carrie, Tyler, and Lauren), and 6 great nieces and nephews (Zach, Cade, Audra, Finn, June, and Magnus). Cassi was preceded in death by her grandparents; mother, Char Petroske; nephew, Brandon Petroske; ex-husband, Dirk Holmes; sister-in-law, Renee Bernier; and father-in-law, Ken Bernier, who died while holding vigil over Cassi’s bedside prior to her death. A Celebration of Life for Cassi will be held at Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center, located at 123 10th St S, Fargo, ND 58103 on October 6th, 2019, with visitation starting at 3:00 pm and memorial service starting at 4:00 pm. The family greatly encourages family members, friends, and acquaintances to share any stories or memories you may have of Cassi during the Celebration of Life. Lunch will be served afterward, please stay and visit. A prayer service will be held for Ken Bernier after the luncheon (please see Ken Bernier’s Boulger Funeral Home obituary for additional information).

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  1. Tom and family, Words will never be enough to take away the heartache, the emptiness that you are going through. Cassi was a ray of sunshine, a life full of zest and a beautiful lady. May you find comfort in all who surround you. Our deepest sympathy, Don & Michelle Murray

  2. I am heartbroken at the loss of my niece. She was always so full of life. My sincere condolences to her family and friends, especially her husband Tom and her father Dick. My deepest sympathies to her siblings.. Uncle Stevie

  3. We don’t have words to describe how heartbroken we are about the enormous loss of Cassi and Ken. We have plenty of words to describe what wonderful people they were. We are better for having had them in a part of our lives. We have so many great memories we will forever cherish. We can’t imagine your pain, but please know that you have a big team in your corner and we are proud to be a part of it. We now pray for your peaceful and healthy healing while leaning on your team. -With our love, Jeff and Lynelle

  4. Our prayers go out to Cassi’s husband Tom and the whole family for your loss. We know God has called her home and we praise God for her care. We ask God to provide love and peace to the family. God bless you all.

  5. I am so sorry for your loss. I met Cassie a few years back at a training conference on domestic violence in North Dakota., we kept in touch via Facebook since She was a great person with a great drive for helping victims of relationship based violence. I will say a prayer for her and everyone here. God Bless and God Speed, heaven has gain an advocate for all.

  6. I am deeply sorry for your loss of Cassie and of your Father, there are no words for this incredible pain. My prayers are with you, please accept my deepest sympathies.

  7. What a terrible loss. The obituary was very moving. She did leave this world a better place because of her passion for life. She will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers go out to all the family and friends in this time of sadness.

  8. So sorry to hear about Cassi I have happy memories of Cassi babysitting our children when they were young. She reminds me of her mother and her beautiful was contagious.The Bible gives us promise to see our loved ones again. Love to all

  9. So shocked and saddened by this news of your father and Cassie, so many fun times with you two, heartfelt condolences to your families

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