Joan Caroline Boeder, 85, (formerly Lemley) passed away March 12, 2020, at her home in Fargo, ND. Joan was born on September 28, 1934 to Adolph and Florence (Splitstoesser) Lindeman. She married Marcus Robert Lemley of Pillsbury, ND, on February 24, 1951. They raised their children and lived in Hope, ND until Mark’s death on July 8, 1992. Joan married Robert “Bob” Boeder on December 31, 1999 in Parrish, FL where they lived until moving to Fargo in 2012. Robert passed away in October 2015. Throughout her life Joan was gregarious, hardworking, broadly sociable, easily made friends, was highly opinionated, vastly competitive and capable at many things (bowling, bridge, in fact card games of almost every stripe) and an avid sports fan and fan in general of anything her children and grandchildren were involved in. She was a great cheerleader of life. Joan is preceded in death by her parents and two sisters, Ardys (Doyle) Triplett and Isadore Carlson. She is survived by her six children: Murray (Amsterdam), Craig and his wife Cindy (Coupeville, WA), Jody Hunnicutt (Denver), Cindy and her husband Tim McKay (Minot), Todd (Denver), Caryn (Houston); nine grandchildren: Case, Connor and Kaisa Lemley (Craig), Austin and Jim McKay (Cindy), Hannah and Will Hunnicutt (Jody), Tyler and Zachary Sedillo (Caryn); 5 great grandchildren, and many nieces, nephews and cousins.

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  1. I was sorry to hear about Joan. I remember her from many things working with her at school functions and also bowling and going to the State bowling tournaments. She was always fun to be with and I never thought of her as highly opinionated, just right ! I remember your whole family as your Dad was our insurance man for years and Caryn was in Vicky’s class and Todd was a great drummer. Those were all the good years. I am sad to know that Joan is no longer here but I do cherish the memories of her. Our sympathy to the family. Pedo and Dick Tretter

  2. So sorry for your loss Todd and condolences to the rest of your Lemley family also.

    Only One Mother

    Millions of stars in the heavens above
    Only one Mother to cherish and love.

    Thousands and thousands of flowers and trees,
    hundreds and hundreds of mountains and seas.

    Everything multiplied over and over,
    Robins and butterflies, bees in the clover.

    Many good friends to think the world of,
    But only one Mother to cherish and love.

    – Anonymous

  3. Sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. We were
    childhood friends and played basketball
    together in high school. We did lots of other
    things together too!! My thoughts are with
    all of you. Kitty Stromberg

  4. Peter & Nancy Foster of Parrish, FL send their sincere condolences to Murray, Craig & Cindy, Jody, Cindy & Tim, Todd, Caryn and all the grandchildren. We were good friends of Joan’s, and know she will be greatly missed. She was an original! I still miss our late afternoon glass of wine and gossip on her lanai or mine. Fond memories of a great lady!

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