Michelle Nelson Ross of Fargo passed away quietly and unexpectedly on Tuesday, September 20 at her home. Michelle was born January 24, 1967 to Patricia Arneson Heggan and Stuart Moen of Mayville, ND. She was the eldest of six children. At the age of 23, Michelle met Tim Ross of Fargo. It was love at first sight and they were married just six months later in October of 1990. They welcomed their first son, Cullen, their pride and joy in June of 1992. In August of 1993, their princess, Madison was born. The perfect family. But, they didn’t stop there. In October of 1995, their little “doodle bug” Caleb joined their family. Never a dull moment after he arrived. And last, but not least, in May of 1999 the sweetest baby boy, Hayden was born. Michelle received her college degree from University of Minnesota Crookston. Although she had all the talent in the world, she opted to be a stay-at-home mother. Her children were her life and she spent every day loving and spoiling them. She found great joy in any opportunity to give gifts. Christmas and Birthdays were her favorite. Michelle had a huge heart and would do just about anything for anybody when asked. She loved volunteer opportunities. Michelle was known around town for the awesome aerobic classes she taught. She always left participants smiling and dripping with sweat! Michelle also ran a home day care for many years. Most of the children were like her own, continuing to keep in contact with her to this day. Michelle enjoyed making everything pretty and loved to listen to blasting music. She loved flowers, gardening, animals and her children dearly. She knew God’s purpose for her life was to make others smile, laugh and feel loved. Michelle is survived by her four adoring children, Cullen, Madison, Caleb and Hayden and Tim Ross, her loving husband of 20 years and great friend for the last six. She leaves behind many that she called friends throughout the years. There will be a celebration of Michelle’s life on Monday, September 26 at Nativity Catholic Church in Fargo. The memorial service will be at 2:30 PM with a visitation one hour prior. Burial will be at a later date. A special thanks to Mary Kay Schott for the kind compassion she has shared with Michelle’s family.

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  1. My Heart goes out to Michelle’s Children and the Heggen family. I remember staying overnight at the Heggen’s with Dana and Michelle would give us hair and makeup tips. Also all the nice things Michelle would comment about my boys on facebook. She was a Sweet Shinning Star who’s light went out way too soon.
    LOVE & HUGS to You All, Rita ♡

  2. To Michelle’s family
    My heart goes out to you.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    So sorry I won’t be able to attend Michell’s celebration of her life. I am out of town. I’ll be thinking of you.
    May God wrap his arms around you all during this time of need.
    Mary McManus

  3. My deepest sympathies to Michelle’s children and family. I worked with Michelle at Macy’s and she always had a smile and a positive spirit. She was kind to everyone. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    Leo Esser

  4. My heart goes out to all those that Michelle knew. I have fond memories of her and her family during the time they lived in Warren and Argyle. I am so sorry their loss! Thoughts and prayers to each and every member of her family!

  5. Our thoughts are with Tim and the kids. Michelle was our neighbor and she was one of the nicest people ever. I remember when she gave us a movie basket with the movie, Finding Neverland. Michelle always had the nicest flowers on the steps and Christmas decorations. After she moved if we ran into her around town she was always so excited to see us. Her smile was contagious. Although we lost contact with Michelle we will always remember what a dear person she was.

  6. Michelle is one of my first cousins. I didn’t know her too well because we moved to South Carolina when I was younger. I do know she was loved and will be sorely missed and my thoughts and prayers are with her friends and especially family during this time of mourning.

  7. My heartfelt sympathy to all of Michelle’s family. I will always remember her smile and laugh. May the memories you have of her be a comfort and blessing in the days ahead.

  8. So sorry for you loss to all family and friends. Such a loss so early in life. We can only hold of. To God and with his love he will guide us through the grief process. Prayers

  9. Saddened by the news of Michelle’s passing! She was a beautiful, bubbly, funny, kind person! I always enjoyed visiting with her! My condolences to all who knew and loved her! ❤️

  10. Many Blessings and Prayers to Michelle’s children, husband, and the Heggen Family. Michelle will never be forgotten.

  11. My heart goes out to your family! I use to teach with michelle , she was a total fireball! Everyone loves her classes and her infectious personality! Bigger than life !!! God bless your family and bring peace to those who loved you!

  12. Michelle had the best heart. Never will know anyone like her. She had the best smile and laugh. I am so proud to call her my friend. She was only one ever to call me “Gibbs”, because she loved Gibbs on NCIS. My heart goes out to her family. She will truly be missed. Love you, Michelle.

  13. I will never forget Michelle. I had the honor of working with her at both Macy’s and Victoria’s Secret. Michelle was the type of person who would always leave a smile on your face and leave you laughing for hours.

    While working at VS, I found out I was pregnant with twins and terrified. I was a young,single mom and had no idea what to expect. Michelle found out that I was expecting, and the next time I saw her during her shift, she came running up to me, with her big ol smile and gave me the biggest hug ever! She was so excited for me and new that everything would work out, and she was right. She bought me a book while I was pregnant, and I still have that book with me today, 8 1/2 years later. I definitely will never forget her!!

    She would talk about her children always, you 4 were the biggest joy of her life. She loved to brag about you for hours. My heart aches for you all during this time. She will be missed.

  14. I was so sorry to hear about Michelle’s passing. I never got to know her very well, but she seemed like a really sweet person. My prayers will be with you all at this sad time in your life. Sincerely, Tim’s aunt Carol Mergner

  15. My thoughts and prayers are with all of family. When I thouht of Michelle it is of a soft sweet little girl..and when we saw her a few years ago I could see that had not changed. Beautiful women inside and out. Had the privilege of meeting her children, neat respectful children. She was so proud of you. Mom was so tickled for the visit . We all were so happy to see all of them. My heart breaks for all of her family.

  16. I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed getting to know Michelle through my daily visits to Absolute Nutrition, she was always such a bright spot!
    God bless.

  17. I had the honor of being Michelle’s sister in law. I am blessed to have wonderful memories of her. I always looked forward to spending holidays and birthdays together, we had so much fun. Blowing off fireworks on the 4th, at the farm, and spending Christmas Eve at Tim and Michelle’s were some of my favorite days. There is no doubt that Michelle loved her children. They were her glory. I love you Cullen, Madi, Caleb and Hayden… always have and always will. Be “Ross-ome” 🙂

  18. I will miss you, Michelle. I will always look back and remember your incredible smiles and fantastic hugs. You have always been an angel.

  19. I knew Michelle back in the Gold’s Gym days and beyond. She was such an inspiration and so beautiful. My sincere condolences to her beautiful children.

  20. I am so sorry for her kids and the rest of her family’s loss that came much too soon. I got to work with Michelle at Macy’s for a brief time as I was leaving when she was starting but I remember her being a very bubbly person who loved talking to all people. Her face would always light up when she talked about her kids. She was one of a kind and will be missed by many. I am unable to be at the celebration of life but my thoughts and prayers are with her family during this unexpected, difficult time. Always remember how much she loved you and wanted only the best for you!

  21. My deepest sympathy to Michelle’s family, especially to her children. What a beautiful, loving lady; she was so welcoming and sweet at Absolute Nutrition. I’m praying for all of you.

  22. Our condolences to all of Michelle’s family. We did not have the honor of knowing her, but the Tributes on this post show how wonderful a person she was, and how much she is LOVED. May you find peace in the Love of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

    Paul and Jean Moen

  23. My heart breaks for all of you. May you find comfort and be at peace knowing her memory will live within your hearts for years to come.

  24. We are so saddened to hear about Michelle. It has been many years since we have been in contact and have moved from the area. Obviously she touched so many lives in a positive way. Our sympathy is with Tim, kids and the rest of her family.

  25. We are very sorry for your loss. May our Almighty father of tender compassion give you comfort during this difficult time. He is close to the brokenhearted and will not leave you during your time of mourning. We pray you find comfort in the words found in John 5:28&29 and know all promises written in the Holy Scriptures will be fulfilled, including the resurrection hope.

  26. To the entire Ross family … I am so sorry for your loss. Although it’s been a few years since I have seen Michelle frequently, I wanted to share a memory that always comes to my mind when I think of her.

    Years ago, when Caleb and my son Alex played on the same summer recreational baseball team, they were in need of a coach. No one stepped forward, even as of the first day of practice. Michelle was quick to volunteer at that point. I remember her saying that she knew nothing about baseball but that she will willing to learn! By the next meeting, Michelle had purchased a book about baseball and a brush to dust off home plate. She wasn’t afraid to make a mistake or have anyone laugh at her inexperience. She just wanted to be sure that her son and his team had a coach. And she was such a great, positive presence. You could tell that she would do just about anything for her kids.

    I’ve been smiling at this memory of Michelle for the past few days, and I can only imagine all the wonderful memories that you will keep with you forever. Praying for you all. Also, please know that Michelle will be remembered in prayer by the Shanley community during our memorial Mass in November.

  27. I am so sorry to hear of Michelle’s passing. Sending prayers 🙏🏼. to her children and the Heggen family! I remember when she first moved to Argyle, I thought Michelle was so beautiful! She was happy and always smiling. God bless you in your time of loss and sorrow. 💐

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