Patricia Jean Bodensteiner, 90, Fargo, ND, peacefully passed away Wednesday, April 8th, 2020 at her loving son’s family home. Pat was born July 4th, 1929 at the family farm in Wales, North Dakota to Peter and Clara (Kartes) Sauer. She graduated from Langdon High School in 1947. She married Herb Bodensteiner on October 18, 1949 at St.Boniface Catholic Church, Walhalla, North Dakota. They made their home on the farm west of Walhalla where she helped in raising her family of six. They moved into Walhalla in 1980 where they made their home together until Herbs passing on August 15, 2009. Pat was very active in the St. Boniface Catholic Church community where she was a member of the altar society and sang in the choir. After many years of volunteering for Right to Life, an organization and cause for which she was passionate, she served as president of the local chapter for many years. She dedicated many years in the Legion of Mary as well. Pat was an excellent seamstress who made many treasured dresses for her girls. Pat shared many passions with her beloved husband of 59 years, Herb. Most importantly, they shared their Catholic faith and their family. They loved to spend Saturday evenings square dancing, which they may likely be doing at this heavenly moment. Together they would fill the kitchen with cookies, coffee cake and homemade bread with all the jams and jellies one could imagine as they loved to spend time baking or cooking. They took pleasure in doing this for their kids, grandkids and anyone else who stopped by to visit. They planted and cultivated many vast gardens over the years. Herb and Pat enjoyed their time together on the course playing a round of golf from time to time. Pat was a loving mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. Her smile was always brightest when surrounded by her family and when she had one of her grandchildren or great-grandchildren on her lap. She is survived by her children; Mary (Tom) Cornett, Cottonwood, AZ, Ann (Terry) Carson, Walhalla, ND, Jerry (Kathy) Bodensteiner, Fargo, ND, Jacinta Stilwell, Rapid City, SD, Jim (Mary) Bodensteiner, Fargo, ND, Arlene (Russel) Hardy, Prescott, AZ; 20 grandchildren and 22 great-grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her husband, Herb; her parents, siblings, Clarence Sauer, Sister Carmelita Sauer, Anne Fisher, Bernice “Bunny” Bodensteiner, Lloyd Sauer, John Sauer, son-in-law, Jan Stilwell, great-grandsons, Zachary and Anthony Karel. A private memorial mass will be held on April 13th at St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church, Fargo. In lieu of flowers, memorials preferred to North Dakota Right to Life: 418 E Rosser Ave Suite 100, Bismarck, ND 58501. The Memorial Mass can be viewed live on St. Anthony of Padua's Facebook Page at: . It will also be posted for viewing on Boulger Funeral Home's website by 6:00 P.M. on Monday.

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  1. I, Gary, remember in traveling for right to life, as a field worker, I believe I stayed at the Bodensteiner home. They were a strong force in that corner of the state for the sanctity of life. God granted her many years, may she rest in peace.

  2. Pat was a great example to her children and to all who knew her. We had many fun times with all of our cousins at their home as I was growing up. She is now in heaven with her beloved Herb, and she’s experiencing all of God’s promises. May the perpetual light shine upon her, and may she Rest in Peace.

    Steve & Jane Metzger

  3. We feel very privileged to have known dear Pat and spend time with her on her visits to Cottonwood. She always entertained us with wonderful stories of her childhood and raising her family on the farm.
    Deep condolences to all her family. I’m sure she and her beloved Herb are celebrating being reunited. Much love.

  4. Sympathy to all of the family. Pat was such a joy to work with at St. Boniface, we spent many hours together. She now rests in peace, PTL.

  5. Our condolences to hear about Pat. May Pats soul rest in peace through the mercy of God. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers at this time. God Bless.

  6. So sorry to hear of Pat’s passing. We were blessed and honored to have met her at Anne and Gregory’s wedding several years ago. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Peace and blessings to Pat and all of you. Helena and Terry Gregoire.

  7. We extend our condolences to all of Pat’s family and loved ones. We were blessed and honored to meet Pat at Anne and Gregory’s wedding several years ago. We wish peace and joy to all of you. Helena and Terry Gregoire

  8. We are so sorry to hear of Pat’s passing but know how joyous she must have been to meet our Lord at heavens gates. Please know you are all in our prayers and thoughts.

  9. I know Pat from living on the same floor at
    Bethany, and she ate supper at the same table with me each evening. I will miss her greatly.
    Such a nice lady! Miss seeing Ann too

  10. Jim and family. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I remember your mother was an elegant lady and full of grace. I know you will miss her terribly. May your memories bring you comfort, and may you find great peace in knowing she lived her life serving Christ.
    May the peace of our Resurrected Lord be with you.
    Cathy (Carrier) Urlaub

  11. We were so sorry to hear of the death of your mother. Pat was very kind and welcoming and we were often invited over to visit with our cousins when we came to Walhalla.We had a great time playing with you and the snacks were delicious when we came inside.Yes, your Mom and Dad are probably square dancing up in heaven, thrilled to be together again.May the peace of Christ be with you.

  12. Dear Bodensteiner Clan: I can hear your mother laughing right now, and see your dad’s bright blue eyed smile. I can smell their potato pancakes and feel the care for all that entered their home. They have left an amazing legacy of sons, daughters, and beyond. And, for those of us lucky enough to grow up under their wing… they have filled an enormous place in our hearts. They were such an amazing example of loving mentors, and they helped shape me. Through them, we received my beloved Auntie Jacinta for my Uncle Jan, and Jacinta’s siblings, who became my friends. I’m so very thankful to have known Pat and Herb Bodensteiner.

  13. I offer my Deepest Sympathy to the Bodensteiner Family on the passing of your mother. When my wife, Til, was still living, we had many wonderful visits with Herb and Pat in both Walhalla and in Fargo at family gatherings with Jim and Mary. May she rest in peace.

    Ron Tellinghusen

  14. Jim, Mary & family
    Many thoughts are with you at the loss of your Mother
    May the happy memories remain in your heart
    Hugs & prayers sheila kautz

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