Paula Jean Brenden

paula brenden

August 18, 1967 ~ December 21, 2022

Born in: Mandan, North Dakota
Resided in: Fargo, North Dakota

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Paula Brenden 55 Fargo ND passed away on December 21st at Sanford Medical Center due to a pulmonary embolism suffered on Thanksgiving Day.​

Paula Jean Hoffman was born on August 18, 1967, to Don and Mary Hoffman in Mandan North Dakota. She grew up in Mandan and graduated from Mandan High School. She was active in many high school activities including FBLA, debate, and wrestling statistician. She attended Bismarck State College for a year before moving to Fargo to attend Moorhead State University. She worked for Nilles and Davies law firm and Gate City Bank. She worked for U.S. Bank for nearly 18 years, most recently as Vice President of Operations, retiring in 2013.

Paula married Corey Brenden on February 7, 2003, in Las Vegas Nevada. They were blessed with two children, daughter Lauren and son Jack. They enjoyed many activities together including traveling to Minneapolis to watch the Minnesota Vikings play. Paula was an incredible planner and planned multiple visits to Disney World for her family, which always included her parents. Paula was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 2005 and lived courageously with the disease, overcoming many challenges along the way. In recent years people would sometimes say oh that’s probably too hard for you Paula, and her response would always be, “Yes everything is hard for me but I’m still going to do it!”

As it became more difficult for Paula to get around, they continued to travel in their motorhome. In this way she was able to watch her kids enjoy life even if she was unable to always take part in the activities. Paula continued to be the planner of the family as she planned multiple trips to various places including Wisconsin Dells, Mall of America, Valley Fair, and the Black Hills. She also enjoyed the last three summers at the lake with her brother-in-law and sister-in-law Mike and Julie Ross. Through their help, she was able to live the lake life where she was able to go for pontoon rides and observe the eagles nesting on Twin Lake.

Paula was active in her children’s lives, frequently volunteering at school to help with activities. She never missed an event for her children because she enjoyed watching them participate. Even as Lauren went to college Paula would offer to help proofread her papers. If Lauren was home, they would enjoy watching various movies and TV shows together including “Bones”. She enjoyed going to Jack’s football games even when it was cold. Her special friend, Amy Hagenson worked to find ways to help keep her warm providing a heated seat cushion and heated blanket to make those cold night games more tolerable for Paula. She was so proud to be part of the Davie’s Football program offering to help in any way possible even though many things were a challenge as she worked from her power wheelchair. Paula enrolled Jack in youth hockey as a kindergartner and she continued to watch him play through the years even when some arenas could get brutally cold for her. She was not going to be stopped.

Paula brought such a positive attitude to life with her smile, encouraging everyone to do their best. She was always building up her family and helping them through difficult situations even as she experienced challenges greater than all of them. She was a very effective communicator and was never afraid to say what was on her mind. However, she was always respectful to others even if she didn’t always receive the same respect back in return.

Paula is survived by her husband Corey; daughter Lauren and son Jack; Her parents Don and Mary Hoffman (Bismarck ND); brother Mike (Bismarck ND); Mother-in-law Alice Brenden (Dilworth MN); Sister-in-law Julie (Mike) Ross Breckenridge MN: brother-in-law Gary (Rea) Brenden (Dent MN); as well as many uncles aunts, nieces, nephews, and cousins.

She was preceded in death by her grandparents Joe and Anna Hoffman; Percy and Elizabeth (Betty) Livdahl; Father-in-law Oliver Brenden; Uncle Earl Livdahl.

Video Tribute can be viewed below:


Visitation - Thursday: December 29, 2022 6:00 pm

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103


Prayer Service - Thursday: December 29, 2022 7:00 pm

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103


Visitation - Friday: December 30, 2022 12:00 pm

Hope Lutheran Church Fargo, South Campus
3636 25th St S.
Fargo, North Dakota 58104

(701) 235-6629

Funeral Service - Friday: December 30, 2022 1:00 pm

Hope Lutheran Church Fargo, South Campus
3636 25th St S.
Fargo, North Dakota 58104

(701) 235-6629

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  1. Wishing you peace and comfort and the courage to face the days ahead. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers and we are here for whatever you need. Sending all our love.

  2. Sending you courage at this time and in the future as God wraps His loving arms around you and give you strength. May your memories give you peace and comfort.

  3. I’m so saddened to hear this. An old friend from Fargo just gave me the news. I just don’t the right thing to say other than my thoughts are with all the people that loved Paula.

  4. Mary, Donnie, Mike and the rest of Paula’s family:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Paula was the first friend I made when I moved to Mandan and we spent a lot of time together that first summer. We lost contact after graduation, unfortunately, but she will always be remembered. Prayers for all of you.

    Tonya (Christian) Jans and family – Jerry, Jared, Tyler and Kassidi

  5. May peace and comfort surround the family and friends of beautiful Paula. A treasure inside and out who will be dearly missed. May we all find the strength to move forward and cherish our memories.

  6. My thoughts and prayers are with all of the people who loved Paula. She will be missed by many. May You find comfort in her memory. God Bless

    Lorie Cich

  7. I’ve heard my friend Kimmy (your neighbor) share stories about Paula over the years. I’m so sorry for your loss of her bright light.

  8. Corey, Lauren, Jack, Donnie, Mary and Mike, We are so sorry for your loss. I have many fond memories of Paula. All the Christmas we spent at the kids table! All the family events we attended with our families. May you find peace in your memories of Paula. You’re all in our thoughts and Prayers. ❤️

  9. Thoughts & prayers go out to your family. Paula was a classmate. I will always remember her kindness and smile. She was truly a beautiful person and will be missed. So sorry for your loss

  10. Corey, Jack, Lauren and family. Paula Jean was a one-of-a-kind wife, mother and joyful human being. So sorry for your loss. Paula will be missed. Love Olga and Les.

  11. Corey, Jack, Lauren and family. Paula Jean was a one-of-a-kind wife, mother and joyful human being. So sorry for your loss. Paula will be missed. Love Olga and Les.

  12. My heartfelt condolences to you, Corey, Lauren, Jack, & also Paula’s parents and brother, Mike. I have many fond memories of Paula, from her & Corey’s wedding celebration, to holiday get togethers, to years of miscellaneous family gatherings, both joyous and sad. Paula was always full of love and joy. Lots of laughter and fun has been shared over the years. I am blessed and grateful to have known her. Her bright smile, sparkle in her eyes & warm, fun personality will be greatly missed. I always admired her strength, courage, positive mindset and determination navigating her MS health challenges. May God carry the immediate family and all those who deeply loved Paula, through this difficult time. May He provide comfort and strength for all.
    (Cousin to Corey)

  13. Corey, Jack, Lauren and family members. I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this very difficult time in your life. You have all suffered a tremendous loss. It will take time, but you WILL be able to feel joy and peace and purpose again. God’s abundant love and compassion and strength is so evident by all of the wonderful people He has surrounded you with. What a blessing to have all of His faithful, loving ambassadors there to comfort you and be there to lift you up and give you strength when you need it most. In addition to family and friends, please take advantage of the many wonderful Grief Support groups that God has provided that can help complete the healing process when it’s too painful to share with people who are too close to us. Don’t be afraid to use these valuable resources. If you need anything at all, please don’t hesitate to let me know how I can help.

  14. May the memories you have with Paula bring you comfort at this time and in the future. We continue to pray for all of you and please let us know if you need anything.

  15. Paula, my sweet dear friend of almost 40 years, you will be greatly missed. I will miss your fiesty brown eyes, contagious smile, and many years of laughter & jamming to Prince & Whitesnake. You were my high school partner in crime, my roommate, co-worker, and four wheelin friend.
    You persevered through your MS and lived life to its fullest. I am grateful to have been one of the many people you have touched in a positive and uplifting way. My condolences, hugs and prayers to Corey, Lauren, Jack, Donnie, Mary, and Mike. May God comfort your family as we cherish the precious memories of Paula.

    Brenda Renner Fried & family

  16. Corey, Lauren, Jack, Donnie, Mary, and Mike; So sorry for your loss of sweet Paula. She was a beautiful person, inside and out. Lots of fun memories of us living together in Fargo in the late 80s-early 90s. Peace be with you all. She is in Heaven now❤️. Hugs …

  17. I’m so sorry, Corey and family. We know all about MS as our son, Nathan, had MS and passed away due to causes from it. May God be with you always, but especially at this time.

  18. My deepest condolences go out to Paula’s family. I knew Paula back in the 80’s. She was always a joy to be with. Loved her smile that lit up a room and her ability to always make me laugh. Praying for peaceful hearts, loving memories, and comfort to all her family.

  19. Corey and family,

    Sincere sympathy and prayers for your loss.

    Paula was my manager for awhile at US Bank. She was such an understanding and fair manager. I loved going to work as i could always share my trials and tribulations with her. I could tell that she cared and even went beyond her call of duty to find me rides to work.

    I visited with you at Hope several years ago, Corey. I hope I can visit with you again some day at Hope Lutheran! I am there often.


  20. Corey and family,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed working with Paula so much during her time with U. S. Bank. She was such a dynamic leader that inspired many. Her smile could light up a room! She will be missed by so many. Peace to all of your during this time.

  21. To the family of Paula,
    I am sorry to learn about the passing of Paula. I was Paula’s high school FBLA advisor. I enjoyed having her as a student and member of the organization and had the privilege of attending a national FBLA conference with her.
    May good memories of her bring all her family much comfort.

    Carmen Hart

  22. Mary, Donny, Corey, Paula, Jack and Mike,

    My entire family and I are so aware of your loss and we are praying with you these days. I can tell from the service tonight how greatly loved she is and how sorely she will be missed.

    Please know of our continued prayers as you deal with your loss. I know she is dancing with the Lord! She has some good company up there.

    Sister Barbara and the Hagel Family

  23. Corey and family- I am so saddened to hear the news of Paula’s passing. I was good friends with Paula in the mid 90’s when I lived in Fargo. She was an awesome gal and we had many laughs! In fact she even came to visit me when I moved to Hope. ( She had bought my twin home back in the day) Prayers and hugs to you and your family.

  24. Corey and family – I am shocked and saddened at the news of Paula’s passing. She was my manager for a brief, yet awesome period of time at U.S. Bank. She always had a smile and an ear for whoever and whenever, no matter what was going on. Prayers to you all.

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