Ryan Nicklay

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Ryan Nicklay, 41, died Thursday, Sept. 1, 2022, at home in his sleep.

Ryan was born July 9, 1981, in Moorhead, MN. He grew up in the Fargo-Moorhead area going to schools on both sides of the river.

Ryan lived briefly in Bemidji, MN, where he received his CNA certificate from Northwest Technical College in 2007. He worked a short time in that field. He returned to Fargo, where he spent most of his career working for Cougar Tree Care. He enjoyed being outside and figuring out exactly how to cut down the trees and make them land in just the right spot.

His children Kyler and Taylor were his pride and joy. He loved hanging out with them. He encouraged and supported them in their activities – Boy Scouts, wrestling, volleyball, band, fast-pitch softball. He was always fired up for a good match or game.

He loved hanging out with his friends, going to Buffalo Wild Wings, watching the Vikings, going to concerts and events.

Ryan found his forever love in Melissa Smith, his “Bird” …

He is survived by his parents, Renee Nicklay and Brian Carpenter, Fargo; his son, Kyler Nicklay, Fargo, and Kyler’s mother, Jessie Olson; his daughter, Taylor Nicklay, Bemidji, and Taylor’s mother, Ashley Tanner; his brother, Bernie Okland, Williston, N.D.; his nephew, Bennie Okland, Williston; his grandmother Erma Nicklay, Fargo; and many aunts, uncles and cousins.

He was preceded in death by his grandparents Stanley Nicklay, Sandra Carpenter and David Carpenter; and his aunt Cathleen Gausman.

Ryan’s final resting place will be St. Mary’s Catholic Cemetery, Barnesville, MN.


Visitation - Saturday: September 10, 2022 1:00 pm

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103


Funeral Service - Saturday: September 10, 2022 2:00 pm

Boulger Funeral Home and Celebration of Life Center
123 10th Street
Fargo, North Dakota 58103


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  1. My sympathies to Ryan’s family and friends. May you all be able to find comfort and peace in the days ahead. He will be missed by many.

  2. Rest easy old friend. Thoughts and prayers to Ryan’s family, his friends, girlfriend, their families. He will be missed by all.

  3. Sending lots of love, prayer, hugs and much much more to your family! Ryan, you will truly be missed!!

    -Alyza and Sam

  4. Dear Ashley and Taylor, and all of Ryan’s family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss. May memories keep him alive in your hearts and mind. Love, hugs and prayers

  5. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends. Been many years since I last saw Ryan, but he wasn’t easily forgotten. He definitely left his mark in this world. Rest in peace.

  6. Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us everyday, unseen, unheard, but always near, so loved, so missed, so very dear.

  7. I think the last time we actually saw each other was over 20 years ago, but you were unforgettable then and will remain that way. So sorry for everyone’s loss. RIP Ryan.

  8. Sending light and love to all of his family and friends. Ryan you were one of the good ones and will be missed by many.

  9. Ryan, my friend. You were family to me. You had a rare quality about you the way you cared for family and friends and you never flaunted it. It came so natural to you and I learned so much from you. I miss you buddy, brother and friend. In my heart you’ll always be. I love you Ryan

  10. Our family is so sorry to hear of your loss, my brother Ed was very good friends with Ryan growing up. We send our condolences to the family in this time of need

  11. Brian and Renee, I am so sorry to hear this. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart hurts for you and your family.

  12. Ryan has always been one of my favorite people. I will genuinely miss him. He always made me laugh and even if we hadn’t spoke in years when we would see each other it was like no time had past. He was one of my oldest and dearest friends I will miss him.

  13. Kyler and Taylor, Ryan’s love for you was apparent to everyone who knew him. He was so very proud of you both.
    Melissa, from what I’ve heard, you brought so much joy into his life. I’m so sorry it was cut so short.
    My condolences to all Ryan’s family.

  14. You have my deepest condolences Renee on the loss of Ryan. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. May the memories of Ryan bring you comfort in the days ahead.

  15. Ashley and Taylor, May memories of your love for Ryan/Dad and wonderful moments shared together heal your hearts. Love you, Sharon

  16. Ryan was a beautiful baby and a beautiful man. He was full of life in so many different ways.We are so sorry and will be thinking of you.

  17. Thank for streaming the service. It is not the same as being by your side of course. We are so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express. Thinking of you all.

  18. Renee: I am so sorry to read of the passing of your son. I remember the day he was born and hosting his baby shower. My thoughts and prayers go out to you at this time. Always, Cheryl

  19. Renee and Brian , My deepest and heartfelt condolences are with you during this difficult time . Sincerely, Jodi Carpenter

  20. I did not know Ryan, I am a long time friend of Brian Carpenter. My sincere condolences on the loss of Ryan. Such a young man with a long life ahead of him. Prayers of comfort for the entire family and extended.

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