Stacy M. Lauinger

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Stacy Marie Lauinger, 59, passed away September 25, 2022 at her home surrounded by her family.

Stacy was born September 20, 1963 to Richard and Karen (Peterka) Croaker in Grafton, ND. She moved to Fargo at a young age where she attended school and graduated from Fargo South High School. While at Fargo South she met the love of her life, Arnie in the lunch line. Stacy and Arnie got married on August 6, 1983 at St. Mary’s Cathedral. They raised two boys while she was a stay-at-home mom. Later she found her passion and second family working as a paraprofessional at Bennett Elementary. This is where she got her famous nickname “Mrs. L”. Stacy loved traveling and spending time with Arnie, family and friends. She was so happy to finally be called grandma by her three little grandsons. Stacy enjoyed her flower gardens, spending time at the lake, playing Words with Friends and her Sunday fundays with her love Arnie. What she enjoyed most was laughing and creating memories with those she loved.

Stacy is survived by her husband, Arnie; children, Jardie (Lydia) and Sutton (Sheena); grandchildren, Julian, Elliott, and Conrad; siblings, Craig (Jane) Croaker, Kerri McDonald, Lana Bauer, Mitch (Kaci) Croaker, Tyler Croaker, Nicole Nelson; and many cousins, nieces, nephews, and friends.

Stacy was preceded in death by her parents; father in law, Conrad Lauinger; brother in laws, Jim McDonald and Joe Bauer; and little furry friends, Norman, Elvis and Boz.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made on behalf of Stacy to 4 Luv of Dog Rescue and Homeward Animal Shelter.


Visitation - Thursday: September 29, 2022 1:30 pm - 2:30 pm

Sts. Anne and Joachim Catholic Church, Fargo
5202 25th St. S.
Fargo ND 58104,

Funeral Mass - Thursday: September 29, 2022 2:30 pm

Sts. Anne and Joachim Catholic Church, Fargo
5202 25th St. S.
Fargo ND 58104,

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Stacy M. Lauinger 's name.

4 Luv Of Dog Rescue

1523 23rd St S
Moorhead, MN
(701) 205-0190

Homeward Animal Shelter

1201 28th Ave N
Fargo, ND
(701) 239-0077

Memories Timeline


  1. Oh sweet Stacy you will forever be a light. So many fond memories of yearrs past. Thinking of you, dear Arnie, your beautiful children & grandchildren, and your family and friend during this incredibly difficult time. Prayers to you all and hugs. ❤️🙏 Mike and Julie (Dollinger) Smith

  2. I will cherish the memories and remember the good times we had on Lake Ida! Whether it was in your lake kitchen or dancing on the tables in Margaritaville, we had a lot of fun. My heart goes out to all of the family. Hugs and prayers to all of you.

  3. Stacey brought so much joy and love to the people around her. Always smiling, so positive and ready for a good time no matter where she was. She talked about her boys, their wives and grandkids non-stop. Arnie was her best friend. So many pictures and stories. We will miss her tremendously here at Bennett Elementary. She had so much love for all “her” kids. Mrs. L was a popular name at our school. I will miss your smile in the mornings and that ‘Darn” whistle you would blow to wake us all up, followed up with a belly laugh.
    Love you my friend, rest in peace and comfort.
    Jen Fisher

  4. My deepest sympathies to the Lauinger and Croaker family. She was a beautiful woman that could light up the darkest room. My thoughts and prayers are out to the family.

  5. Sincere condolences. Our Beautiful Stacy. Gone too soon. My heart goes out to all of you. She will truly be missed. I love you always Sweet Stacy. ❤️


  6. I was so sadden to hear about our beautiful Stacy passing. My heart and love and prayers to all the family!! You are all so precious to me! 😇🙏❤️
    Dora Mae

  7. Sending my deepest sympathy to Arnie and family. Stacy was a bright light that will be sincerely missed. Memories of her sweetness and smile will linger on. ♥️

  8. The room would just light up the second Stacy entered it. One of the most prettiest, classiest gal we know. So down to earth, full of love and very kind to anyone that crossed her path. We will miss you Stacy! Our deepest sympathies to Arnie, Jardie and Sutton. Love ~ Sam and Carla Blattenbauer

  9. So sorry for the loss of sweet Stacy… our prayers will continue for Arnie and family, peace and comfort for all.

  10. There are no words that describe what an amazing, loving and incredible person Stacy was. I will be forever grateful that I got to be a part of her family. She touched so many lives in the very best way. You will be Forever missed.

  11. Although we lost touch with one another here and there, there was never a time we couldn’t pickup where we left off. I sat and reflected yesterday on some of our crazy times, laughed and cried. I will miss you, until we meet again my beautiful friend. To the Lauinger- Croaker family my prayers and thoughts to all of you.

  12. My thoughts and prayers go out to Arnie and all of Stacy’s family and friends.
    She was loved by so many and was always so sweet and caring.
    I will treasure the sweet memories of spending time with Stacy and Arnie and their beautiful family.
    My heart breaks for you all.
    Love , Jackie Ness

  13. Arnie and family. So very sorry for the loss of Stacy. So many fun memories we shared. She will be greatly missed. Thoughts and prayers for Arnie and the family. ❤️Love, Scott & Jodi Miller

  14. Stacy was such a kind, loving, and beautiful person whose smile was contagious. Rest in peace, Stacy. Prayers to your family to be blessed with strength and comfort as they mourn your loss. 🙏
    Your classmate,
    Jolene (Himmerich) Wiebold

  15. My fondest memories have always been and always will be all the wonderful times spent with Stacy, her family, and all her friends. I’m so very lucky to have been a part of her life. You were taken way too soon my beautiful friend XOXO

  16. I have so many precious memories with Stacy, so many stories to tell, but I don’t know how to begin. Stacey has touched so many lives and given so much of her love to those around her. The sparkle in her eye when she talked about her family, especially those grandbabies. The love she showed all the kids at Bennett, my granddaughter was fortunate enough to be one of those kids. She could light up a room, just by walking into it, she truly made the world a better place.
    I will miss you my friend, until we meet again.
    Arnie and family, you are all in our thoughts and prayers.

  17. Stacy you were such a heart warming person always had a smile on your face. You will be missed. Hugs and prayers to Arnie and family.
    Love Kelly & Laurie Johnson

  18. Bennett Elementary was incredibly lucky to have Mrs. L. She had the gift of making EVERYONE feel important and smart. The students absolutely loved her and believed in themselves simply because Mrs. L believed in them. As her colleague and friend, I feel so blessed to have enjoyed so many fun times, special shared student moments, and much laughter together. I know I am better for knowing her. Arnie, Jardie, Sutton, beautiful wives and precious grandsons, your wife, mom, and Gma “Tacy” loved you so so much. We enjoyed many videos, pictures and stories of you all. Please know your beloved lives on in spirit with us at Bennett and beyond.

  19. Kerri, so very sorry for your families great loss. I will be thinking and praying for all of you. Wish for all of you peace and healing.

  20. Stacy was one of those people that drew you in with her laugh & love for life! Her greatest love was for her kids, those sweet grand-babies, fur babies, & Arnie! My thoughts and prayers go out to them as there will be a missing piece that can never be filled!
    Mrs. L sent out ripples of love and kindness with every student, staff, and parent she worked with and her legacy will continue to grow and impact others! ❤️
    You will be missed!
    Love you!

  21. Sending prayers to the Lauinger family. Lots of great and fun memories. Stacy was always smiling when I saw her. Her beautiful smile will be missed. 💕

  22. So many good memories with you and Arnie. I’m so heart broken that I won’t see your beautiful face again. You definitely could light up the room. I will miss you my friend, even though we didn’t see each other alot, but I have a feeling you will finally meet Elvis Presley! I know how much you loved him like me. RIP beautiful girl! Hugs and prayers for Arnie, Jardie, Sutton and your grandchildren!

  23. Stacy, we are heartbroken and send love to you and your dear family. We will never forget your zest for life and your fun-loving spirit. You made our son, Nico, feel so at ease and like a part of the family right away. You were a fun and loving grandmother to your sweet grandsons, and the heart of your boys’ household. Thinking of you

  24. Sending my sympathy and prayers to Arnie and family! Stacy your beautiful smile and laughter will be so missed!! I am so thankful that our paths crossed! You will forever be in my thoughts!💞

  25. I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Such a beautiful woman inside and out. I’m grateful to have known her. My heart and prayers go out to Arnie, her sweet boys, grandkids and entire family.
    Rest In Peace my friend until we meet again.

  26. So sad for all of the family. I hope you can find peace. Stacey was genuine. I will always remember Stacey growing up as being so humble and kind. Funny, pretty, classy and sweet. Beautiful inside and out. You knew you were going to have a great time doing whatever it was you were doing. If Stacey was going to be there. She is flying with angels. Again.

  27. Arnie & Family
    My heart breaks for you all – I’m so sorry for the loss of your Wife/Mom. Stacy was one of the most beautiful women I know inside & out.

  28. Arnie Jardie and Sutton may God embrace your families during this sad time your wife and mom was a beautiful soul now the most beautiful Angel in Heaven God Bless you all and she will send you her signs which says I’m still with you ❤️

  29. Mark and I were blessed to have met Stacy and Arne several years ago from mutual friends and family. What a blessing.
    Truly one of the most beautiful, kind, caring and compassionate women I’ve ever met. Rest in peace my friend. Til we meet again.

    Deepest sympathies, Mark Faleide and Nikki Losee

  30. Knowing Stacy through the many years has always been a highlight for me from the 70’s and visiting the house way out south with Mitch and Lana and Kerry and Craig was great memories for me way back and still to this day ! I love the Whole Croaker family and Stacy you will be missed so dearly by everyone who was lucky enough to know you ! Love you and Rest In Peace my dear friend ! 🙏🙏🙏

  31. Lauinger and Croaker family, your sweet Stacy will always shine bright! Thoughts and prayers to Arnie the boys and all your family and friends. 🙏🙏

  32. Arnie & family, we are so sorry for your loss. Stacy is singing with the angels and smiling down on us. God Bless the Memory of Stacy Lauinger.

  33. Arnie & Family, our deepest sympathies to you. The loss of your true love, soulmate, mother, mother-in-law, and grandma is so devastating at the young age 59.
    May Christ give you peace, as we know, Stacy is at peace with Christ and all her loved ones in Heaven 💖
    Rick Graalum

  34. Arnie, Jardie, Sutton, daughter-in-laws and her precious grand boys, please except our deepest sympathies to you all. We pray that God gives you strength during this difficult time. Stacy was a beautiful woman inside & out. She will truly be missed but never forgotten. Hugs to you all❣️ Terryl & Rick Graalum

  35. I truly believe there is no death, only a change of worlds. The stamp and impression you made on anyone that has met you, will never be forgotten. I can hear your laughter as though you were sitting right beside me. There will most certainly be a void without your physical presence, but the energy and joy you brought to so many will always and forever be felt. Love and light, Stacy, I’ll see you in the next world. To all of the Croaker-Lauinger friends and family, I’m sending prayers and healing energy.

  36. So blessed to have known Stacy, treasured in our hearts she will stay until we meet again someday. Thoughts and prayers to Arnie, Jardie, Sutton and family as you cherish the memories 💕🙏🏻. Paul & Paula

  37. Arnie and family. I am soul sorry about the loss of Stacy. I did not know her well, she was in my sister-in-law’s wedding, but I graduated with Arnie. In this time of grief, you are all in my prayers.

  38. Mrs. Lauinger was an amazing part of the Bennett Elementary School family. She will be dearly missed. The Bennett PTA has donated $50 to 4luvofdog in Stacy’s name. Our deepest sympathies are to all this great woman has touch in her short life.

  39. I’m am going to miss you soo much Stacy 💔 She was such a classy lady, very True and Dear to me .. Only thing I am happy for is your no longer in pain and can RIP🙏🏻 My Thoughts and Prayers go out to Arnie and the whole family .. Love you all 💕

  40. Dear Lauinger family,

    I’m so sorry to hear of Stacy’s passing. I graduated from South with her. I did not know her well. But I will NEVER forget seeing her in the commons area. I used to think she was absolutely one of the most beautiful girls in our class. And to top it all off she was dating a senior!!! Wow, right? But, it’s very clear she was equally as kind and beautiful on the inside. My heart goes out to all of you. I know the FSH Class of ’82 will always hold her in our thoughts.

  41. Troy and I will cherish all the good times and many laughs. Stacy was truly the very best and will be so missed. Sending love, hugs, and prayers to Arnie and family.

  42. Sorry to you all , words can’t express how I feel , I hope and know God will give you all strength 🙏, many good memories of the old days
    God bless

  43. So very sad to hear of Stacy’s passing. She truly was a beautiful person inside and out. Had many fun times in high school together. Thoughts and prayers go out to all the family and friends.

  44. I’m very sad to hear of Stacy’s passing. She was a classmate and so full of fun. Even tho we lost touch, we always caught up if we ran into each other. Her smile, laugh and kindness will be missed. My heartfelt sympathy to the Lauinger-Croaker family.

  45. Arnie and family, my heart breaks for you. There just are no words. But when I think of the spark and joy she will bring to Heaven, just as she always did here on earth, I cannot help but smile just a little. I pray for a peace and strength that will carry you all through the coming days, weeks, and months ahead. A life well lived is never forgotten. God Bess her memory.

  46. My thoughts and prayers are with you Arnie and family. May your memories bring you comfort . Rest in peace Stacy. God Bless.

  47. Stacy was always nice to me in my younger years, when the Lauinger’s, Nyhof’s, Croaker’s, and Geist’s used to hang out. Wish her family the best, Arnie, Jardie, and Sutton. She will be missed for sure! Love all around.

  48. To the Lauinger family,

    So very sorry for your loss…….I did not know Stacy was so sick……we have made a donation to
    in her memory…. I wish we could help more! Stacy was always so sweet. Such fond memories of the BMX Biking days! So happy Jardi and Justin have remained such good friends over the years. Special relationships….our best to you in this very sad time……

    Our best,

    Susan, Justin and Paul Neuschwander, and John Neuenshwander….

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